Socially Retarded...a new disease sweeping the masses!

The scenario can go a little something like this: Mia and Sasha have been friends since they both were shopping for training bras together. Throughout that time, they have built up a crew with them being the backbone of it. Mia starts a new job and meets Blair, and Mia hits it off with her almost instantly. Of course, once Mia and Sasha start making plans for the weekends and their busy fabulous social lives, Mia thinks ..hmm...I think I want Blair to come with us sometimes. She is smart, very pretty and extremely personable. Mia predicts she will fit right in with everyone and of course when Blair comes she is a hit with everybody EXCEPT Sasha! Why does this happen?

Why can't a new face, in most cases a woman, be introduced into a new circle without one person creating a ton of drama surrounding this individual and giving them the cold shoulder.

It all goes back to the first day of elementary school, if you didn't have a cousin or sibling your age, then you went at building your social crew alone. You were a little bit nervous and didn't know what to expect. You thought it would be the end of the world if you didn't find just ONE person you could talk to and latch on to like Velcro. Then once you got there and mingled everything seemed to be OK. There is always SOMEBODY to connect with.

That first day of school feeling happens quite often for young black socialites in NYC. Everyone seems to know EVERYONE or know OF them, and once your circles interchange for just a second while on the scene, at a friends game night or just out and about, you may feel put in that same space. God forbid it is a guy who is really digging you and he is a part of the circle you are trying to infiltrate, because you already know a handful of women in that circle are ready to politely attack.

I have been a social bug since I was 12, before then I was the shyest little girl in Brooklyn, my aunt would say. What happened I don't know. It was as if overnight I morphed into this sassy, opinionated, humorous being, that I like to say has stuck until today, and not ever have I contemplated toning down that part of me...ever. That part of me is always ON and that is how I have built various circles in my life. Granted some people get a dose of this and they are not a fan immediately, and that is fine, to each its own, but at least share your essence with someone new on occasions. It helps you to grow and it opens you up to new worlds.

What I realize is that when I invite some of the people in my life to various events, and functions and they come up with excuses like "hmm I don't think I can make it", I dunno", or "I don't want to be around that person" Like seriously GET over yourself! Mind you these are the same people who complain about not having anything to do, not going out enough and being home all the time.

So now you are telling me that you are going to miss out on an opportunity in which you can maybe network and be introduced to something NEW, along with meet some new people all because being there will take you out of your comfort zone, or are you really that afraid of being social with new people. In either case, both will keep you stagnant.

BE SOCIAL! I am not recommending that you make best friends with every single person that you meet, this has nothing to do with trust and building life long friendships. This has to do with sharing your thoughts, gifts, talents, dreams and ideas to someone who you never met before. I find that when I do this and meet new people it always leads me to a new venture, opportunity, and sometimes a friendship that ends up playing a major part of who I am.

As I have said before I believe this year, 2009... will bear many fruits! The number 9 in general is the most humanitarian of all numbers in the spiritual spectrum. Number 9 is also the number of mastery, it signifies the end of things, completion and closure. Meaning 2009 should represent the end of all the old habits and ways that have kept you back from achieving all the great things that are in store for you.

It is important that we do things out of our comfort zone. Be ALIVE, experience our environments, meet new people, have new conversations, expand on profound issues and get other perspectives on life.

Hope you all have a very socially friendly weekend!!!!

XOXOXO!

Are you fluent in the universal language?

What is that? Some have their own perspective on what this is...I believe it is LOVE. Music runs a close second in my opinion but LOVE is always a language that we can recognize when it speaks to us loud and clear.

If it is love between you and your man, or woman, you and your home girls or homeboys, you and your children, you and your many things you might possess...you know when you love something and it makes you feel like nothing else in the world.

I was watching this new video by Keri Hilson last night...(whom I am HIGHLY anticipating her album release 3.24.09) not just because my home girl helped work on her project and she is always branding her around anyone she is near, but because the girl is really talented. She can write and she knows how to speak to that place we all love to feel so much, but may not feel it as much as we may like.

Anyway...she has this song called "Make Love". They released a snippet of the video on the internet yesterday and I must say...I loved it! Not just because Kanye was her leading man (I love Kanye) but because the eye that the director had, caught the emotion that the song was trying to convey. The video actually CAPTURED the song and to see that these days is like actually opening the door for a Jehovah Witness on a Saturday morning...it just does not happen anymore.

We live in this world of FAST FAST FAST, everything is done in a snap, videos no longer have story plots, themes, captures emotion...it's just a backdrop and the digital masters make the effects happen. Who wants that?

If I hear my favorite love song, or a song that pulls at my heart strings you best believe I wanna see a fine specimen of a man serenading and capturing the mood that I am in when I listen to the song. I want to see him hold that woman and tell her how much he loves her! I want to see her smile and them swoon over each to the tune that made it all possible. I don't want to see him or her just stand there in front of a damn green backdrop.

So I fell in love all over again when I watched that video last night..I fell in love with ART, MUSIC, TALENT...I felt excited behind the passion, work and creativity that went into the cinematography behind that little snippet. I can tell that all the participants worked hard at making it possible and that includes Keri herself who had to be very intimate and physical with Mr. West...That is no easy feat. lol.

Anyway...I recommend that you demand LOVE from everyone, everything and make it a staple in your life. Look for the love in it all, and give the love back. It feels sooo FLIPPIN good when you can do that and really embrace it.

I love you guys!!!! Lets all speak the same language!

XOXOXO

2009 is giving birth to some serious movers and shakers...watch!

"You can't soar with eagles if you walk with Chickens"

This is a old saying that I know my people down south love to preach about. The ironic and funny thing is ...90% of the people who will re-quote this saying...are walking with a slew of chickens and even worst some of them ARE the chickens.

You ever seen people talk and preach some deep wisdom and then you see them not doing nothing significant with their own life. It is so easy to judge and write them off but we are all human, and a work in progress, but it does make you say "hmmmm".

It reminds me recently when I said something and this guy I know says " You don't have to tell me you preaching to the choir"? What the hell does that mean when people say that? Even at church the choir is sitting BEHIND the preacher receiving the same message as you. Once you believe you are above receiving the message, no matter IF you know it or not, you have already shot yourself in the foot and done a disservice to the person speaking. We have to encourage one another in spite of us being "know it all's".

It is sooo easy to complain and to rant and go on about the negative aspects that affect us everyday, may it be people, obstacles, situations...but this never helped or added on to nothing but the spread of more negativity. I have been practicing putting Good Energy out to everyone who comes near me for the past couple of weeks, and what I find out is "Good Energy Bring Good Energy" (Thank you Kanye).

I think many would argue that this sounds easier than actually doing it, but try it. I mean really put your effort and be conscious to just being happy and being upbeat and having good energy in spite of running low on cash, not liking what you put on today, having to meet up with someone you rather see every 3 months, having to watch somebody's kids, running late for something, someone running late to you, someone owing you money, waiting for someone to call who clearly is not thinking about you, and the list can go on...but do you let that consume your entire being and existence and block you from receiving the numerous blessings that are lined up for you?

I believe in "What is will be". I also believe we play a huge role in achieving what is to be by what we put forth and how hard we work at it. A a wise man once said "The only time success comes before work is in the dictionary".

Yes you will see many one hit wonders and people who seem to make it with minimal work, but their lasting affect and the quality of what they are made of will diminish. You want to have a lasting affect, be respected and make sure the place at the top was custom made just for you and you can only achieve that by working your tail off to ensure it.

2009 we cannot waste time! We must create the lives WE want NOW!

Have a fab weekend and enjoy this beautiful weather...


XOXOXOXO!

P.S. I just want to say to all who read this and I do not fwd to you but you can find something in it for you...I appreciate you taking time to read it and for all the kind words that you have sent me. Thank you. I do it to contribute to my community of folks so we all IT BIG when it is all said and done.