We are human, living in a world of distraction. We turn left there is noise, We turn right there is chaos..We close our eyes, our phone rings. We sleep...we may dream in color of what is to be...We are human beings..living on a plane of uncertainty.
It is not my battle to fight, nor is it yours. We take everything sooo seriously. WHY? That bill needs to get paid, That event is happening next week I need to go. I have not visited him or her in a long time I need to go. I need those shoes. I need that bag. I need a new man. I need a fly girl. I need a house. I need that car. I need to go on vacation. I need a new job. I need..I need..I need!
I tried an experiment one day with some people who for the record, had no idea they were being party of my observation. I carried my day on as normal and whoever reached out to me on that day...they were part of the hypothesis. What did I hypothesize? That I would hear them either express discomfort, complain or speak of all the things they DON'T have but NEED or WANT. Hear them speak of everything that is not right.
It becomes overwhelming. Not once did someone say I am so grateful and happy for what I have in my life. Most times people don't take a moment out of their day to just give thanks for IT ALL. No matter how troubling times can get...Is it ever really that bad?
Listening to all of the ranting an complaining makes me feel 10 lbs. heavier of course because I am soaking up all that negatively charged energy, but I am conscious through it all, and made the conscious decision to respond positively and upbeat. You would be shocked at how your high enthused energy will eventually break down that person's negative ball. It is funny to watch because it is as if they are a fish out of water, and wont know how to move once you respond opposite to the way they are.
I am too blessed...too happy and to GRATEFUL for all the wonderful threads that make up this life of mine. I will not sulk, feel beat up, think pessimistic, feel conquered, feel hopeless, faithless, or helpless. I am a child of God. I was put here to carry out a purpose and it shall be fulfilled. I am, thankful for IT ALL!
I read this passage one day out of a book written by Maya Angelou (who I adore) and she says:
"The ship of my life may or may not be sailing on calm and amiable seas. The challenging days of my existence may or may not be bright and promising. Stormy or sunny days, glorious or lonely nights, I maintain an attitude of gratitude. If I insist on being pessimistic, there is always tomorrow. Today I am blessed."
And blessed YOU shall be....
Have a wonderful weekend!!!
Speak your gratitude OUTWARD! Wear it on your sleeves!!!! It looks good on you.
Showing posts with label Struggle. Show all posts
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Thursday, September 17, 2009
Thursday, August 13, 2009
Bag full of Foes?
How many people can you call on if you really was stuck in a jam? Would you be able to put your closest friends names in a hat and just pick one and feel sure knowing they would be there...or would you have to really carefully strategically think about who could I call in this time of need?
I think this is absolutely ridiculous when you have a nice group of close friends and not one of them is willing to try to assist you in your time of need. Many people will let their ego get in the way of them wanting to ask a favor from someone who they think to be a close friend, but why?
If you cannot ask your closest friends for favors without them being less than happy to do them, then why are they close to you? Most likely this type of friend is a selfish, pompous individual who is looking out for his or her own best interest at all times and you or anyone else just exists in their world.
I think it is healthy to learn to say NO to those who never seem to reciprocate your friendship. If you are always over-extending yourself, and making sure the relationship between the you two of you is cozy and fit then make room in your life for that person to show what they can do for the relationship as well.
If there is anything we know about "People", they will do exactly what you allow them to do. Start to set the standard high in your friendships as well as intimate relationships. If you don't set the tone for you and what is expected then who will. Blame yourself and yourself only when you are treated less than fair, disrespected, abused or mistreated in any shape or form. You allowed it to happen. Point blank.
Of course some people come from years of emotional abuse from childhood and their self-esteems are damaged inside out and they do not have that strong persona to shut down any non-sense from anyone. In this case, the time is now. Learn to stand strong and to be your number one fan.
People are so disposable its ridiculous. They love you today and hate you tonight. But if you are in love with yourself the way you should..you won't miss it at all.
Enjoy your weekend and be amongst the living!
XOXOXO
I think this is absolutely ridiculous when you have a nice group of close friends and not one of them is willing to try to assist you in your time of need. Many people will let their ego get in the way of them wanting to ask a favor from someone who they think to be a close friend, but why?
If you cannot ask your closest friends for favors without them being less than happy to do them, then why are they close to you? Most likely this type of friend is a selfish, pompous individual who is looking out for his or her own best interest at all times and you or anyone else just exists in their world.
I think it is healthy to learn to say NO to those who never seem to reciprocate your friendship. If you are always over-extending yourself, and making sure the relationship between the you two of you is cozy and fit then make room in your life for that person to show what they can do for the relationship as well.
If there is anything we know about "People", they will do exactly what you allow them to do. Start to set the standard high in your friendships as well as intimate relationships. If you don't set the tone for you and what is expected then who will. Blame yourself and yourself only when you are treated less than fair, disrespected, abused or mistreated in any shape or form. You allowed it to happen. Point blank.
Of course some people come from years of emotional abuse from childhood and their self-esteems are damaged inside out and they do not have that strong persona to shut down any non-sense from anyone. In this case, the time is now. Learn to stand strong and to be your number one fan.
People are so disposable its ridiculous. They love you today and hate you tonight. But if you are in love with yourself the way you should..you won't miss it at all.
Enjoy your weekend and be amongst the living!
XOXOXO
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
These shoes were made for walking....
I grew up hearing the phrase "What comes up must come down". Not only is this a known fact in physics, but can be applied all day, everyday in life. We feel like we are at the top for so long, living the life, everything is perfect, and then out the blue something can come and knock us off our throne and tell us "Now deal with this"! Life is full of unexpected events and surprises. Man, if I had a dime donated to me for every time life threw me a curve ball I could start a trust fund with the proceeds.
Of course it can be one of the most devastating and depressing times of your life when you work hard for something, look forward to something and bank on something to be a certain way and it just does not go so. How do you handle that? What do you do?
It is important to know that nothing is the end of the world. I don't care WHAT happens or what appears to be causing you grief. We have the power to change and make things happen the way we truly want and some time our decisions can be the ultimate reason of our demise.
Sometimes when you feel at your lowest point and you cry and you just feel like you have the weight of the world on your shoulders, just at the next moment a blessing comes through and wipes your tears away and makes everything so much better. You realize that you are not ever ever alone and that you will get what you need and what is for you in the time you can handle it.
I take so much pride in all that I have ever struggled through and gave blood sweat and tears for because it makes me so much stronger and helped me to walk around with an appreciation that you can't easily find. I am grateful for it all, and happy I am who I am. God lives through me and you too and nothing is never TOO much.
XOXOXO
Of course it can be one of the most devastating and depressing times of your life when you work hard for something, look forward to something and bank on something to be a certain way and it just does not go so. How do you handle that? What do you do?
It is important to know that nothing is the end of the world. I don't care WHAT happens or what appears to be causing you grief. We have the power to change and make things happen the way we truly want and some time our decisions can be the ultimate reason of our demise.
Sometimes when you feel at your lowest point and you cry and you just feel like you have the weight of the world on your shoulders, just at the next moment a blessing comes through and wipes your tears away and makes everything so much better. You realize that you are not ever ever alone and that you will get what you need and what is for you in the time you can handle it.
I take so much pride in all that I have ever struggled through and gave blood sweat and tears for because it makes me so much stronger and helped me to walk around with an appreciation that you can't easily find. I am grateful for it all, and happy I am who I am. God lives through me and you too and nothing is never TOO much.
XOXOXO
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