Who does your heart beat for?

Ba boom, Ba boom, Ba boom, Has it ever been so quiet that you can actually hear your heart beating?

Well...sometimes you will find that just being around the right person no matter how loud it may be, you can hear this and FEEL IT.

I had dinner last night with two young ladies who company I REALLY enjoy. Of course we talked, laughed, and that age old topic of LOVE creeps in with its charismatic ways. Of course LOVE should always be welcomed whenever it decides to present itself..so we embrace it with open arms.

What I learned within 90 minutes of conversation I have been hearing from many women I know, and don't know. That basically they are NOT with the man they want to be with ultimately. Many women and MEN....settle for what they currently have with a person, in fear of being alone OR of fear of hurting the other person.

A typical scenario is like this: Jasmine's Ex (Daniel) and her were togther for a very long time, they did everything together, could talk to the wee hours about anything, could send her to heaven and back within 35 minutes ( if you know what I mean), and make her feel more alive than any other living thing. Of course life happens as it will, and Daniel and Jasmine part due to the circumstances that have taken over in their lives. Years go by, and Jasmine moves on. She dates and she finally meets a man (we will call him Greg) that really is a great "catch". Respectful, hard working, handsome, generous and a true gentleman. He wins her heart and she falls into another relationship.

Now of course, Greg is on cloud nine and thinks he has accomplished something great. He has a good woman, and he deserves it, but what Greg does not know is that her heart still skips a beat faster for her Daniel. Daniel may not have all the pro's that Greg posses, but there is just something about Daniel that Jasmine cannot shake.It makes no logical sense to her friends and family WHY she would want to be with Daniel over Greg, but she knows what she feels. She keeps it in, she suppresses those feelings, and she moves on with life because she wants to be married, happy and have the American dream.

This is alll tooooo common amongst families in America, which is the reason the divorce rate is so HIGH! We know from the gate who we love and what we want, yet if we have something that is good enough we will go with that.

You start asking yourself; Why should I wait for him to realize that I am his light in the tunnel, his Queen of the Nile, His fortune under the blueberry tree? Why doesn't he GET IT! So you tell yourself to forget him and forget how you really feel and what you truly want.

Yes this sounds good and assertive and powerful, but is it worth the price of happiness and true BLISS.

The biggest mistake a lot of us make, is we look for material things to equate to what our hearts feel. He does not have a good job, he does not make enough money, SO WHAT! Rome was not built in a day and neither will wisdom, maturity and wealth. If you love something so much and you know only one person gives you that special feeling I say "give it a shot". You have nothing to loose.

I am in no way promoting for you to continue giving a looser a shot who you have given 5 shots too already. After the initial shot at trying to work something out, and allowing him to prove himself fails, then yes my darling you should move on. If he try's to come back then he has to go through the depths of HELL to win you back..make him WORK FOR IT!

Love is precious and you know when you feel it. There is nothing compared to it.

I don't care what NOBODY says..it feels like the tip of the q-tip when you are cleaning your ears, the masseuse's fingers massaging your back, the sea breeze hitting your cheeks when you have been sweltering all day, like a big plate of some GOOD, BBQ chicken, mac & cheese, collard greens, sweet yams, and potato salad, or your favorite Italian dish, with some garlic bread and your favorite wine! hmmmmmm.

Do not settle for any type of LOVE.... its NOT WORTH IT! I have seen elders miserable and heartbroken and wanting and searching for something they let slip away.

In the words of Dr. Seuess : "When you are in Love you can't fall asleep because reality is better than your dreams."

Have a LOVE-ly weekend and reach out to someone you LOVE!!!!

XOXOXOXO