“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.” - Charles R. Swindoll
Long quote I have shared today...I know, but so much needed! I do not think half of us really acknowledge our attitudes in life. I truly believe that if we took one second before each occurrence and thought about how we wanted to maintain a positive outlook then we would have different results more often. I am really going hard on this attitude adjustment campaign in my life because I think I have fell victim more often than not to not having the BEST possible attitude towards situations that are not favorable.
So many of us are ready to sucks our teeth, throw up our hands, roll our eyes, defame someones character, punch someone in the face, spit on each other, lie on each other, and NOT CARE about anything outside of them. This is the behavior we need to negate.
We should aim to hug, embrace, encourage, motivate, think, show concern, give our attention, listen, guide, hope and dream with each other. So much more can be done when these are put into place. It takes so much energy to sit back and be mad and be purposeful in your negative space. How do you live a life that is hateful on purpose? How does that add up?
We must know that our youth are in a state of emergency. This entire generation is in a huge state of emergency and it will not change unless some of us be the pillars of example to always wearing and putting on our best for them. They need constant reminders of what NOT to be and what NOT to do, and unfortunately those come far in between because we give up on the hope that exists for them.
Dedicate yourself to living as an example to the possibilities that can exist for them, and that all starts with changing your attitude to being bright and optimistic! As one person told me ...SUNNY SIDE UP. :)
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Tuesday, July 13, 2010
Thursday, April 9, 2009
How do you kiss your future if you're still hugging up on your past in the present!
It is soooo easy to think that something that you once had, may it be a job, a relationship, or a living situation is so much better than what you have at the moment. Have you ever been in a situation that seems to be JUST right, everything fits in its place, but something from the past creeps into your current space and seems to throw EVERYTHING off. That is not by accident. It is supposed to throw it off, because it does not belong!
I know many women and men in relationships who have everything they need right in front of their nose, but they are holding on to some idea and emotion that they shared with someone else from their past and it prevents them from fully living and embracing the possibilities that this new, fresh love has to offer them. They do not even think about the leaps, bounds and heights that a new love, a new career or a new lifestyle can bring to their world if they just let it.
I was watching Sex and the City re-runs last night...(one of my all time favorite pastimes when I have some down time), and I was looking at the episode in which Carrie was just starting to date "Jack Burger", a fellow writer that she recently met. Everything was just PERFECT between them. They both laughed at the same things, he "got her" and she "got him", they could go on and on, about topics for hours, but what was happening was her ex "Mr. Big" was calling her every so often and having conversations with her that you would not usually have with your "friend".
She would entertain it and this would continue to go on until she finally had to say "STOP", I am seeing someone new and we cannot continue to carry on like this if we are "friends".
This happens all to often, all the time in reality. We do not fully close chapters and shut the door on experiences that left us vulnerable, unhappy and wanting more out of what it had to offer, yet we will allow those experiences with those people to gain re-entry into our lives, even when we have something FABULOUS already. Is this just the natural human tendency of greed, or are we saying we just cannot let go of the memories and feelings we once had for people and situations. Are we that mushy?
I don't believe the latter. I know for a fact that it is possible to close a chapter and leave it where...back there..but this takes time and it is a strenuous process. It does not happen easily and it really almost always just clicks with your spirit without you even knowing it one day. Something just moves you to say that "this is over, and I am fully through with that". You can try to force yourself into believing this before the magical click but the truth is YOU will get there when YOU are really and truly ready.
Sometimes...you keep something waiting on a string for you or close by because in your heart you really want to rekindle something with that individual, even through you tell yourself NO...you do. This even proves itself in Sex and the City, when Carrie ends up ultimately with Mr. Big. She let him be a painting on her wall for years, through his marriage, through her finding some pretty incredible men, through his move from NYC, through her engagement to someone else...and Still what was meant to be WAS "Them"!
This is the piece of the pie I think we all forget. When something is destined it is destined. Does not mean the road will be a swift one, and it may be easier for someone else to get where you are going, but if its meant for you to get to that point...you will get there and the person who is SUPPOSED to be there with you when you get there will be there, because the universe will make sure it happens that way. How...I don't know. Life is funny, but there is a master plan.
This is how I have started to live me life. Just having the ultimate faith that whatever the powers that be have in store for me, God will bless me with the wisdom, patience, and understanding to get through, and to do it gracefully. Whoever is supposed to be my sister girl, my companion, my heart strings will be naturally and whatever service I am to do will unfold and touch those around me with a positive effect. This is all that is important, how we help and inspire one another.
We make things sooo complicated in life sometimes when in actuality it is really just easy living that makes it all work.
EASY = doing what you love....it never feels like work, but it has the biggest payoffs!
EASY = embracing your emotions and being real with your feelings, not lying to yourself, but allowing your spirit to let you LOVE who you want to LOVE because you need to NOT because you HAVE to or you are supposed to.
EASY = Living life out loud! Being bold and moving like no one is ever watching! Free to be who you are with no restraints.
EASY = Putting fear in the incinerator and leaving it there! How can you embrace anything if fear walks with you always!
EASY= Smiling, Dancing, Laughing, Talking, Creativity... being HUMAN naturally!
Start living in the moment and taking advantage of all that the PRESENT has to offer! Life will happen!
Love you all!
Have a blessed weekend and LIVE it up!
XOXOXO
I know many women and men in relationships who have everything they need right in front of their nose, but they are holding on to some idea and emotion that they shared with someone else from their past and it prevents them from fully living and embracing the possibilities that this new, fresh love has to offer them. They do not even think about the leaps, bounds and heights that a new love, a new career or a new lifestyle can bring to their world if they just let it.
I was watching Sex and the City re-runs last night...(one of my all time favorite pastimes when I have some down time), and I was looking at the episode in which Carrie was just starting to date "Jack Burger", a fellow writer that she recently met. Everything was just PERFECT between them. They both laughed at the same things, he "got her" and she "got him", they could go on and on, about topics for hours, but what was happening was her ex "Mr. Big" was calling her every so often and having conversations with her that you would not usually have with your "friend".
She would entertain it and this would continue to go on until she finally had to say "STOP", I am seeing someone new and we cannot continue to carry on like this if we are "friends".
This happens all to often, all the time in reality. We do not fully close chapters and shut the door on experiences that left us vulnerable, unhappy and wanting more out of what it had to offer, yet we will allow those experiences with those people to gain re-entry into our lives, even when we have something FABULOUS already. Is this just the natural human tendency of greed, or are we saying we just cannot let go of the memories and feelings we once had for people and situations. Are we that mushy?
I don't believe the latter. I know for a fact that it is possible to close a chapter and leave it where...back there..but this takes time and it is a strenuous process. It does not happen easily and it really almost always just clicks with your spirit without you even knowing it one day. Something just moves you to say that "this is over, and I am fully through with that". You can try to force yourself into believing this before the magical click but the truth is YOU will get there when YOU are really and truly ready.
Sometimes...you keep something waiting on a string for you or close by because in your heart you really want to rekindle something with that individual, even through you tell yourself NO...you do. This even proves itself in Sex and the City, when Carrie ends up ultimately with Mr. Big. She let him be a painting on her wall for years, through his marriage, through her finding some pretty incredible men, through his move from NYC, through her engagement to someone else...and Still what was meant to be WAS "Them"!
This is the piece of the pie I think we all forget. When something is destined it is destined. Does not mean the road will be a swift one, and it may be easier for someone else to get where you are going, but if its meant for you to get to that point...you will get there and the person who is SUPPOSED to be there with you when you get there will be there, because the universe will make sure it happens that way. How...I don't know. Life is funny, but there is a master plan.
This is how I have started to live me life. Just having the ultimate faith that whatever the powers that be have in store for me, God will bless me with the wisdom, patience, and understanding to get through, and to do it gracefully. Whoever is supposed to be my sister girl, my companion, my heart strings will be naturally and whatever service I am to do will unfold and touch those around me with a positive effect. This is all that is important, how we help and inspire one another.
We make things sooo complicated in life sometimes when in actuality it is really just easy living that makes it all work.
EASY = doing what you love....it never feels like work, but it has the biggest payoffs!
EASY = embracing your emotions and being real with your feelings, not lying to yourself, but allowing your spirit to let you LOVE who you want to LOVE because you need to NOT because you HAVE to or you are supposed to.
EASY = Living life out loud! Being bold and moving like no one is ever watching! Free to be who you are with no restraints.
EASY = Putting fear in the incinerator and leaving it there! How can you embrace anything if fear walks with you always!
EASY= Smiling, Dancing, Laughing, Talking, Creativity... being HUMAN naturally!
Start living in the moment and taking advantage of all that the PRESENT has to offer! Life will happen!
Love you all!
Have a blessed weekend and LIVE it up!
XOXOXO
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