It is soooo easy to think that something that you once had, may it be a job, a relationship, or a living situation is so much better than what you have at the moment. Have you ever been in a situation that seems to be JUST right, everything fits in its place, but something from the past creeps into your current space and seems to throw EVERYTHING off. That is not by accident. It is supposed to throw it off, because it does not belong!
I know many women and men in relationships who have everything they need right in front of their nose, but they are holding on to some idea and emotion that they shared with someone else from their past and it prevents them from fully living and embracing the possibilities that this new, fresh love has to offer them. They do not even think about the leaps, bounds and heights that a new love, a new career or a new lifestyle can bring to their world if they just let it.
I was watching Sex and the City re-runs last night...(one of my all time favorite pastimes when I have some down time), and I was looking at the episode in which Carrie was just starting to date "Jack Burger", a fellow writer that she recently met. Everything was just PERFECT between them. They both laughed at the same things, he "got her" and she "got him", they could go on and on, about topics for hours, but what was happening was her ex "Mr. Big" was calling her every so often and having conversations with her that you would not usually have with your "friend".
She would entertain it and this would continue to go on until she finally had to say "STOP", I am seeing someone new and we cannot continue to carry on like this if we are "friends".
This happens all to often, all the time in reality. We do not fully close chapters and shut the door on experiences that left us vulnerable, unhappy and wanting more out of what it had to offer, yet we will allow those experiences with those people to gain re-entry into our lives, even when we have something FABULOUS already. Is this just the natural human tendency of greed, or are we saying we just cannot let go of the memories and feelings we once had for people and situations. Are we that mushy?
I don't believe the latter. I know for a fact that it is possible to close a chapter and leave it where...back there..but this takes time and it is a strenuous process. It does not happen easily and it really almost always just clicks with your spirit without you even knowing it one day. Something just moves you to say that "this is over, and I am fully through with that". You can try to force yourself into believing this before the magical click but the truth is YOU will get there when YOU are really and truly ready.
Sometimes...you keep something waiting on a string for you or close by because in your heart you really want to rekindle something with that individual, even through you tell yourself NO...you do. This even proves itself in Sex and the City, when Carrie ends up ultimately with Mr. Big. She let him be a painting on her wall for years, through his marriage, through her finding some pretty incredible men, through his move from NYC, through her engagement to someone else...and Still what was meant to be WAS "Them"!
This is the piece of the pie I think we all forget. When something is destined it is destined. Does not mean the road will be a swift one, and it may be easier for someone else to get where you are going, but if its meant for you to get to that point...you will get there and the person who is SUPPOSED to be there with you when you get there will be there, because the universe will make sure it happens that way. How...I don't know. Life is funny, but there is a master plan.
This is how I have started to live me life. Just having the ultimate faith that whatever the powers that be have in store for me, God will bless me with the wisdom, patience, and understanding to get through, and to do it gracefully. Whoever is supposed to be my sister girl, my companion, my heart strings will be naturally and whatever service I am to do will unfold and touch those around me with a positive effect. This is all that is important, how we help and inspire one another.
We make things sooo complicated in life sometimes when in actuality it is really just easy living that makes it all work.
EASY = doing what you love....it never feels like work, but it has the biggest payoffs!
EASY = embracing your emotions and being real with your feelings, not lying to yourself, but allowing your spirit to let you LOVE who you want to LOVE because you need to NOT because you HAVE to or you are supposed to.
EASY = Living life out loud! Being bold and moving like no one is ever watching! Free to be who you are with no restraints.
EASY = Putting fear in the incinerator and leaving it there! How can you embrace anything if fear walks with you always!
EASY= Smiling, Dancing, Laughing, Talking, Creativity... being HUMAN naturally!
Start living in the moment and taking advantage of all that the PRESENT has to offer! Life will happen!
Love you all!
Have a blessed weekend and LIVE it up!
XOXOXO
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Thursday, April 9, 2009
Thursday, March 19, 2009
Baltic Avenue my a**!
How long can you stay in the same spot without getting antsy, bored, tired, restless and aggravated? Even when you go to the post office and see a long line you start to suck your teeth and want to about face because you just cannot bare to stand in line and do NOTHING. Well how come when we are standing in the same spot when it comes to relationships, careers and lifestyle are we willing to STAND STILL with ease?
I realize that I have been a victim of this as many of you probably are. I wont go into detail and specify what area I notice this in but it has put me in that state and I am sooo liberated because I am free to stop standing still and waiting. I am setting my standards and requirements for the various positions in my life and if they are not meeting that then they will fall by the waste side.
Anyone who knows me know I am very ambitious, always have a plan and rarely unhappy based on where I am in my life. I recently had to re-assess certain areas that I thought WERE on point, and realize actually they were not at the levels they could be. Have you done this?
Have you thought that the place you are in with something in your life was great, on point, going well, and then you expose yourself to something outside of you and realize that really your stuff is not as great as you thought. Many professionals do this within their careers, even when they are happy to just see "what else is out there, and what else can I get" when they are in dead end jobs. (Take that figuratively if you like :) ).
The point I am making is everything and I mean EVERYTHING in my world has to add up for me right now. From the people who I give my attention to, the food that I eat, the activities that I take part in, the job that I do, the relationships I foster they have to be = to "Broadway on the monopoly board", not Baltic bum a** avenue! ..Thanks Steve Harvey!
I would like to thank the young ladies whom I spoke to last night for their time and energy and Ms. Saulters I appreciate you! :)
We must start upholding our word, commitment, and dedication to the external forces out side of us. When we stick to the plan and go by our standards we realize that our dreams become reality faster than we think! We have to have a map for ourselves for our lives just as we use maps for anything else. That way if we fall off track we can get right back on.
I cannot offer conversation or any type of energy no longer to those who are not about SOMETHING. Can you hold my focus and attention, should it be granted, because you are taking time away from what I am trying to do for me and mines. If we have a conversation can we build on something that is going to take me a step higher, elevate my level of thinking and inspire me to be more than what I am?
And for my ladies..If he checking for you and wants to get to know you better is he coming correct...is he showing you that he will be a good husband ...can you see yourself having kids with this man? Would you introduce him to your family, or you rather hide him because he don't offer much but a fine physical shell.
Everything we do are deposits in the bank of life. Many of us are not reaping any returns because the deposits that are made are so small they don't add up to nothing...Live BIG..Deposit BIG...BE BIG and leave the small fries behind.
There is ALWAYS something better waiting when you think what you have is it. Jump out on a limb and just explore. Your fear of not giving the next opportunity a chance is what keeps you stagnant!
Enjoy your weekends!!!
XOXOXO
I realize that I have been a victim of this as many of you probably are. I wont go into detail and specify what area I notice this in but it has put me in that state and I am sooo liberated because I am free to stop standing still and waiting. I am setting my standards and requirements for the various positions in my life and if they are not meeting that then they will fall by the waste side.
Anyone who knows me know I am very ambitious, always have a plan and rarely unhappy based on where I am in my life. I recently had to re-assess certain areas that I thought WERE on point, and realize actually they were not at the levels they could be. Have you done this?
Have you thought that the place you are in with something in your life was great, on point, going well, and then you expose yourself to something outside of you and realize that really your stuff is not as great as you thought. Many professionals do this within their careers, even when they are happy to just see "what else is out there, and what else can I get" when they are in dead end jobs. (Take that figuratively if you like :) ).
The point I am making is everything and I mean EVERYTHING in my world has to add up for me right now. From the people who I give my attention to, the food that I eat, the activities that I take part in, the job that I do, the relationships I foster they have to be = to "Broadway on the monopoly board", not Baltic bum a** avenue! ..Thanks Steve Harvey!
I would like to thank the young ladies whom I spoke to last night for their time and energy and Ms. Saulters I appreciate you! :)
We must start upholding our word, commitment, and dedication to the external forces out side of us. When we stick to the plan and go by our standards we realize that our dreams become reality faster than we think! We have to have a map for ourselves for our lives just as we use maps for anything else. That way if we fall off track we can get right back on.
I cannot offer conversation or any type of energy no longer to those who are not about SOMETHING. Can you hold my focus and attention, should it be granted, because you are taking time away from what I am trying to do for me and mines. If we have a conversation can we build on something that is going to take me a step higher, elevate my level of thinking and inspire me to be more than what I am?
And for my ladies..If he checking for you and wants to get to know you better is he coming correct...is he showing you that he will be a good husband ...can you see yourself having kids with this man? Would you introduce him to your family, or you rather hide him because he don't offer much but a fine physical shell.
Everything we do are deposits in the bank of life. Many of us are not reaping any returns because the deposits that are made are so small they don't add up to nothing...Live BIG..Deposit BIG...BE BIG and leave the small fries behind.
There is ALWAYS something better waiting when you think what you have is it. Jump out on a limb and just explore. Your fear of not giving the next opportunity a chance is what keeps you stagnant!
Enjoy your weekends!!!
XOXOXO
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
Take a asprin and call me in the morning.....mmmmm NO!
So since yesterday I have been feeling completely UNDERNEATH the weather. I call myself fighting it and I have been for the most part, but I am just weak! Usually when I get sick I do not take ANYTHING! If I have a cold, I boil garlic, lemon and ginger and drink it RAW. If I have a stomach virus I munch on saltines, eat peanut butter out the jar and sip on hot ginger ale. If I am in some sort of pain from anything (headache, cramps, etc.) I wait it out and rub some tiger balm on it. I am just not one to take over the counter drugs.
I know many people do this and think nothing of it, but, I believe and my gut insists that any drug that you take is just telling whatever you have to "ssshhhh" for a second. Then when it gets tired of being quiet, it starts making noise again and you have to do the process all over again making you DEPENDENT on the drug. Anything that suppresses a process in your body that happens naturally I feel is just suspect.
I remember growing up and my Nana would drink a packet of BC every single day. I used to look at this blue and white small package with white powder inside and say "What in the world is Nana doing"? Then she would say "oh my legs...I smell the rain...my legs are going to be hurting..let me take some BC". Anyone can see that she was so used to taking this drug that she now had a habit, but this happens with people with Advil, aspirin, and cough syrup, amongst other harder drugs. Thankfully, she stopped taking BC before I got to High School, or maybe they stopped making it..lol. I never see it anymore.
I thought about this today, because as I am home sick, watching the news, they are actually advising people to start taking one aspirin a day to prevent a heart attack. Now I have heard this before, and when I was pregnant I was required to take one a day since it is a "anti platelet", also means "anti-clotting" agent. People who's blood tends to clot easily can take aspirin to remedy this in special cases. BUT.....if you are a normal healthy man or woman and you watch the news and they say take one aspirin a day to prevent a heart attack, never mind the fact you eat healthy, you have relatively no body fat, you don't smoke and rarely drink, and you are maintaining a healthy lifestyle, and you are having a active sex life...why would you do this?
The sad truth is so many people will because they take in what they see off the television and hold it as if it is the word. They don't even take time to see that when taking aspirin in large doses (and if you take it everyday I don't care if it is a small dose, its in your system heavy) you run the risk of gastrointestinal ulcers, stomach bleeding, and tinnitus, which is a reoccurring buzzing, whining or humming sound you can hear in your ears, when there is really nothing buzzing or humming..
I have always been about natural remedy's and living in a natural state. Our ancestors lived and cured diseases with the BUSH and some herbs, and these herbs are still present today, you just have to know where to go get them. I know first hand that using the right herbs can work magic...literally. Stop being a slave to all these drugs that are toxic for the natural balance of your body.
Ladies I know many of you use Birth Control, for obvious reasons, and I have too, but you really have to give your system and body a break from that as well. It really is detrimental to your reproductive organs after a long EXTENSIVE period of time due to the suppression that it undergoes for so long. I don't care what the doctor says. They will say that because it has not been proven and they have contracts with the manufacturer to keep supplying you...that is how they make their money. Then you wonder why you are gaining weight, because you are not allowing your eggs to fully be released from your body and therefore, what do you expect to happen...you get bloated and gross. Just be responsible in handling your business. Go on them, go off...that is not unreasonable.
Be responsible with your health, and how you maintain it. Eating Chinese food (from the corner) every night, can really mess you up in the long run as well. I am not saying don't eat out...but the way they prepare this Chinese food is just disgusting. They do not care how they handle your food and its filled with sodium.
I am just in a state of encouraging everyone to start being mindful of what they eat, start being active and stop using all these toxic drugs when you really don't have to.
Warm weather is on the come up and who does not want to feel as good as it will look!
Have a great Tuesday!
XOXOXOXO
I know many people do this and think nothing of it, but, I believe and my gut insists that any drug that you take is just telling whatever you have to "ssshhhh" for a second. Then when it gets tired of being quiet, it starts making noise again and you have to do the process all over again making you DEPENDENT on the drug. Anything that suppresses a process in your body that happens naturally I feel is just suspect.
I remember growing up and my Nana would drink a packet of BC every single day. I used to look at this blue and white small package with white powder inside and say "What in the world is Nana doing"? Then she would say "oh my legs...I smell the rain...my legs are going to be hurting..let me take some BC". Anyone can see that she was so used to taking this drug that she now had a habit, but this happens with people with Advil, aspirin, and cough syrup, amongst other harder drugs. Thankfully, she stopped taking BC before I got to High School, or maybe they stopped making it..lol. I never see it anymore.
I thought about this today, because as I am home sick, watching the news, they are actually advising people to start taking one aspirin a day to prevent a heart attack. Now I have heard this before, and when I was pregnant I was required to take one a day since it is a "anti platelet", also means "anti-clotting" agent. People who's blood tends to clot easily can take aspirin to remedy this in special cases. BUT.....if you are a normal healthy man or woman and you watch the news and they say take one aspirin a day to prevent a heart attack, never mind the fact you eat healthy, you have relatively no body fat, you don't smoke and rarely drink, and you are maintaining a healthy lifestyle, and you are having a active sex life...why would you do this?
The sad truth is so many people will because they take in what they see off the television and hold it as if it is the word. They don't even take time to see that when taking aspirin in large doses (and if you take it everyday I don't care if it is a small dose, its in your system heavy) you run the risk of gastrointestinal ulcers, stomach bleeding, and tinnitus, which is a reoccurring buzzing, whining or humming sound you can hear in your ears, when there is really nothing buzzing or humming.
I have always been about natural remedy's and living in a natural state. Our ancestors lived and cured diseases with the BUSH and some herbs, and these herbs are still present today, you just have to know where to go get them. I know first hand that using the right herbs can work magic...literally. Stop being a slave to all these drugs that are toxic for the natural balance of your body.
Ladies I know many of you use Birth Control, for obvious reasons, and I have too, but you really have to give your system and body a break from that as well. It really is detrimental to your reproductive organs after a long EXTENSIVE period of time due to the suppression that it undergoes for so long. I don't care what the doctor says. They will say that because it has not been proven and they have contracts with the manufacturer to keep supplying you...that is how they make their money. Then you wonder why you are gaining weight, because you are not allowing your eggs to fully be released from your body and therefore, what do you expect to happen...you get bloated and gross. Just be responsible in handling your business. Go on them, go off...that is not unreasonable.
Be responsible with your health, and how you maintain it. Eating Chinese food (from the corner) every night, can really mess you up in the long run as well. I am not saying don't eat out...but the way they prepare this Chinese food is just disgusting. They do not care how they handle your food and its filled with sodium.
I am just in a state of encouraging everyone to start being mindful of what they eat, start being active and stop using all these toxic drugs when you really don't have to.
Warm weather is on the come up and who does not want to feel as good as it will look!
Have a great Tuesday!
XOXOXOXO
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