Tuesday, June 29, 2010

With whom do you RELATE?

Any man who has the genuine love of a woman...(and this can be vice versa) has a tremendous blessing. To truly be in love with another individual past what they own, who they know, their material possessions, and what they can do for YOU, can sometimes seem non-existence in this day.

There was a time when people fell in love with someone based on who they were and what they stood for. They loved the character, integrity, respect, dreams and philosophies that another person possessed. Now a days they see how much can this guy buy me? What can he do for me? How big is his bank account? How fine he is. Who does he know that I can get around and try to get closer to advance myself? The list can go on. Forget actually having conversation and getting to know everything about the person.

OH...and it's not just women...men can participate in this as well.

Some men will be with a woman who can take care of their every need. They will secure a relationship that is suitable for what they need in their life for the moment. If a man has no motivation to get up and work, he will stay with a woman who is not the "one" for him just so he can live rent free, she can cook his meals, and all he has to do is lay her down on her back once in a while to keep her happy.

When a person is being used ...I believe they know it.

They know something is off and they are not being 100% loved in the way Love was intended, but they stay in a bad situation for as long as the comfort zone remains. Relationships are a cooperative effort. A partnership. Team work. In my opinion there should never be a relationship in which someone is doing most or all of the work. I am not saying there is something wrong with a man holding down a household and taking care of the bulk of the financial load, because many of our men were raised to do this, BUT, if you are blessed to have a good man, ladies at least take care of home. Take care of him. Make his life easier, be nurturing, catering and sensitive to the way he feels and the things he wants. Share in his joy and share his world. Be a part of what makes him happy, you are probably the main component of that happiness when you are at your best.

Men...if a lady is holding you down and doing all that she can to make it work for you, then do your share as well. Make her feel like a Queen. Make her feel beautiful without having to say a word. Pay attention to her, love her and be responsive to all her needs. Work to become best friends even though you are lovers. It's the best way to RELATE to your partner. Share your feelings your thoughts, dreams with each other and love with all you have.

Take time to evaluate what your self-worth is and how it relates to the one you lay next to. It may be an eye opener.


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