Tuesday, April 14, 2009

The HIGH horse!

I guess it is safe to say that at some point in our life we will do something that is considered to be a "WOW" on some level, and place us on a pedestal. This may last for a second or a lifetime. It can happen at different magnitudes but when it does usually the person will bask in it. This is fine. Some people will say enjoy your "15 minutes", but one thing is for sure you never ever want that person to get LOST in themselves in the midst of the greatness that is happening around them.

I have seen this happen to so many people on so many different levels. It can be a girl who is dating a guy who is taking care of her and her lifestyle, it can be a guy who has a new job and his salary jumps him into six figure territory, it can be a young star on the rise just getting a taste of fame, or it can be the friends of the young star who are now exposed to a different elite. What all these people have in common is they have the tendency to get bit by this bug that makes them feel that they are superior and "better" than some of those around them who may not be in that same space.

It is one thing to work hard for something and to finally get it and to enjoy it, but when you start treating people less than what they truly mean to you and thinking you are better than them, then that is a problem. Most cases, the people who carry on in this type of behavior have not even reached any type of "pinnacle" of success and they probably never will because of this horrible attitude and behavior. It will be a block.

I personally, rarely deal with these type of people, and thankfully I haven't attracted that energy into my life but I have seen it happen to others close to me and it is really a disappointing thing to watch.

It is never admirable to make someone feel low or put them down and anyone who shows you an attitude that makes you feel this way, is showing you the essence of what they are made of and you don't need that type of person in your life.

Someone who is successful and doing great things should always want to share that with the people in their lives if they are close to them. They wouldn't close you out, they would invite you in, and they would be happy you were there with them to encourage them on to do more.

Stop making excuses for those who prove to you they are not what you need and start making cuts! The longer you keep pollution around you the more damage it does to you! Start to put yourself first and what makes you happy as an individual! All you have is you. Take care of that because no one else is obligated to.




The Social Mogul said...

Double edged sword

AdrianC said...

"They say that money change you, but money don't change you, it just makes you more of what you already are..."
-Phonte,Little Brother
Yeah I know what you mean. But it is the exact thing that needs to happen. Like I always say, every relationship that you have in your life be it friend or associate there will be a defining moment where you know where you stand it's just a matter of doing something about it once you find out. Fame or money doesn't change this person it just gives them an outlet to be an a$$ which is what they would have been given the opportunity. I believe that this kind of negativity would only serve to bring you down, so just get away from it. Nobody that cares about you be it due to money or fame, will just drop you, because if they due don't worry they will end up by themselves surrounded by people that don't have their best interest at heart.

Anonymous said...

I agree-i myself have been dealing with a very similar situation where I have a friend that I care about that is doing big things and out the blue just started being an a$$ to me and as much as I know I do not deserve the disrespect that I have been receiving its hard to cut ties with someone that you've been friends with for so long...but I guess in actuality this person is not really a true friend to disrespect me the way that they do..like you both said its time to stop making excuses for my ex friend and time to make moves...because in all actuality keeping people like th in life is extremely damaging

LadyDee - Brownlady Beautiful! said...

Adrian I took a piece of that and used it on my FB status! Very well said!