Tuesday, January 13, 2009

I'm IN MY SKINNNY JEANS...and feeeling GOOOD!

Is it possible we can Outgrow our homies like we do that polo knit we LOVEDDDD back in the day but it just does not fit the same. HELL YES! The problem is when you outgrow folk it ain't so easy to admit nor is it easy to just ship it off like we do the knit.

See with the knit we can easily put it on and see that joint is hugging us a little too tight and since we won't embarrass ourselves we will take it off, come to terms with the fact it just does not fit us the same and either hand it down to our lil cousin or donate it to the salvation army. Friends can be different. Especially if you and that person were two peas in a pod. It is even worst!

Unfortunately this can be a hard pill to swallow since people are ALWAYS concerned with what other people think. I don't care if you are one of those people who believe "I don't care what nobody thinks about me and mine and what I am doing"...YOU ARE A LIE! Every human being, unless they are a tad bit mentally slow...cares what someone thinks about them, and why shouldn't you!? Your reputation and character are at stake..and I don't know about you but I work hard to build the reputation and character I have, so if someone tries to taint that without warrant...yes I will be pissed. Who wouldn't?

Of course I won't lose my character or integrity over it, but I will be disappointed that someone would speak against me and something that I clearly am not doing. Which brings me back to the original point.

You and Trichelle just are not the same people anymore, the original essence that glued you two together has now loosed because of new life experiences, new callings that may not be aligned with each other. New intentions, new energies and it takes a certain fabric of adult to admit this and to move on from it.

This does not mean you don't like Bailey's Irish Cream from Haagen Dazs anymore just as much as she does and you still cant take a trip with her every now and again to get some if time permits. It just means that she will not be rolling with you as much the way she used to because her energy and intentions have shifted. She does not seem to like to see you happy and moving forward with the life that you always wanted for yourself because she is still stuck in point A where you met her, and then again who's fault is that?

She is not happy that your romeo has come and makes it clear he will give up SEVEN POUNDS for you...(check that new Will Smith if you already have not), she is not excited that you are bold, daring and willing to take on the world for whatever your passion is. She is just not excited about nothing. She rather self loathe, complain, be negative and gossip about the things that everybody else has going on, instead of putting the microscope on herself.

She will attend events with you and come to your functions just to knit pick and point out the mistakes and things that "could have been better" and " why didn't you come and say anything to me the whole night.". She is a brat, a baby, a walking POISON! She must be taken off and put on ICE!

Yes you grew up with her, she was your road dog, ace boon coon, home skillet, I can talk about my bathroom visits type of homie but as all things sometimes end...this has too.

You have grown, You have moved on to another phase and as you welcomed her and encouraged her to come with you down the journey of life, she just cant seem to keep up because she has way to much luggage for the trip. You told her PACK LIGHT, you will get further...she rather bring everything and slow you down...she is a BAG LADY! You had to leave her...you could not wait. You can not allow her weight to fall on you. Next thing you know she will be asking you to carry about 4 of her bags and you couldn't do that....RIGHT?

You are sooo close to your destination...you are almost there...and you turn around and you cant see her no more...she is still trooping it...and it is OK. She will reach this point when she is ready. All You know is you how far you have come, and you are happy. No love lost, you will always be her friend...but maybe from a distance because it just fits you better these days that way!

LOVE YOU ALL!!!!!

XOXOXO

Trim off the excess fat in your relationships and in your life!!!!

5 comments:

MoBetta ThanBlues said...

Well to ansa ya question Yes it is possible to outgrow some of ya best pals....and it is even more possible to out grow some of ya best fam members to....I sure did...(No names will be mentioned but u no who I'm talkin abt)...well we just grew apart...u outgrow ppl bc u finally see and come the conclusion that ur lives r goin into two very different directions and there is nothing u can do....someppl may not understand the chnage n the seperation but once there mental is at the same speed as yours then they will get it....

AdrianC said...

I think we can all relate in some way to this dilemma. I think it can be a very jarring experience. Part of it is because you care so much for that person, I think the other part is knowing that your life ultimately has to take that turnoff at the exit and they are not going to be there. Every ending is a new beginning and all journeys reach an end at some point. I always feel like every relationship in our lives be it friends, lovers, family, will be put to the test and it will be at that defining moment that you will know where we ultimately stand in this person's life and where they stand in ours. I just hope and I think that we can only hope we are able to make a decision that is best for us. In closing, if they were every truly as connected to us as we all like to believe, they won't hold you back or let you down. I think that saying if you love something or someone let it go and if it was meant to be it will come back to you better than ever is true.
Signing off ,
Adrian.

Anonymous said...

YES, DARLING DAUGHTER PEOPLE DO COME INTO OUR LIVES FOR A REASON,A SEASON OR A LIFETIME.WHEN IT'S A REASON IT IS USUALLY TO ASSIST YOU THROUGH DIFFICULTY ,BY PROVIDING YOU WITH GUIDANCE AND SUPPORT AND TO AID YOU PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY,OR SPIRITUALLY. WHEN IT'S A SEASON IT IS BECAUSE YOUR TURN HAS COME TO SHARE,GROW AND LEARN.HOWEVER,LIFETIME RELATIONSHIPS ARE MORE DIFFICULT TO LET GO. THE KEY IS TO FIND THE LESSON,LOVE THE PERSON/PEOPLE ANYWAY,MOVE ON AND PUT WHAT YOU HAVE LEARNED TO USE IN ALL OF YOUR OTHER RELATIONSHIPS...PEACE AND BLESSINGS

Ricky said...

Seven pounds huh..Couldn't make it any clearer than that..Actions speak louder than words but when your envious of someone those actions scream and everyone around you hears it..We all know life has it changes and you take different paths(listen, i know i mad a full 360 turn in my life) but hopefully "friends" don't take it personal because if they do then we all know they are not anymore. Keep it moving!!

LadyDee - Brownlady Beautiful! said...

These were wonderful comments guys!!!! Thanks!