You ever watched someone close to you go through some pretty hard times. They are always down, depressed and have low energy. You pretty much get used to them being "that way". We start to justify them being miserable and allowing them to be that way around us and everyone else. We trick ourselves in to believing that its OK for them to be upset and complain about every single thing because the world always breaks down on their shoulders. They never get a break. Life is just so hard for just them.
We are just as much as fault for them being that way if we choose to keep these people's company and don't encourage them as much as we can to "try something else". My dad used to tell me growing up..and its a famous Quote by Benjamin Franklin. "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results". You CANNOT expect to see differences in your life that you want to change, just because you said it. You have to go about things differently and actively change up the way you have done things in the past. You have to change your way of thinking as well. Switch up your paradigm and move with it.
It's almost guaranteed that the things that the people in our life who seem to have a hard time go through is caused by no one else but them. They might not realize it because they are so focused on the issues, and sometimes it helps when those around them can offer honesty and insight into what they see from standing on the outside.
When you make the decision to ensure that if you can help it at all, you will make sure this person has fun, live life and try to get the most out of it, then you are doing your part as a friend, a relative, a companion. When you make the decision to encourage them to do more, and to assist them when they need it you are playing your part.
It is a great feeling to see someone you love smile, laugh, play and be one with the moment, and to know you played a part in making it happen. It is also a great accomplishment for anyone to witness progress, no matter what form it comes in.
Have a great Tuesday! Lend a hand to your friends...