Why is it that one of the most pleasurable and euphoric feelings we get can cause so much complication and misunderstanding alll the time in our lives. What feeling am I referring to? What highest level of understanding can I be speaking of? LOVE.
Yes LOVE. The word itself to me has become soooo cliche. I had a deep conversation this weekend with my homegirl, and she agrees and I agree DON'T EVEN TELL ME YOU LOVE ME......SHOW ME!
That is the name of the game these days! I remember watching old TV sitcoms or movies and the big thing was when the guy (or in some cases the girl) would look over in the actor's eyes with almost a glare of water in their own gaze and say those three words "I Love you".
Yes the fireworks were going off, the person on the receiving end of the love ode was almost in tears and could not help but reach over and give the biggest kiss and hug that you can imagine. BLAH BLAH BLAH!
Don't get me wrong. I am sucker for a good love story and I am a romantic at heart. I love everything sweet and sincere..but that's just it! These days you are lucky if when someone tells you that they love you they REALLLLY mean it and have an understanding of the fragile state that emotion puts you in.
Yes you can love someone but I think the focus has left of really showing and going over the depth of the mountains to express those feelings. I just laugh when couples say "oh we been married/together twenty something years"...but then when you are around them it feels like you are in a prison and the both of them are plotting the ultimate escape but have not yet contrived the plan.
I mean all the best to those couples who have the commitment and stamina to live with a person for so long, that is not to be overlooked because as we all know living with another person can be a test of sanity. (lol) But why suffer and be unhappy if at the end of the day you feel like you are living an episode of "Married with Children".
I bring this back to my original point. When love is present it never needs to be questioned, it does not have to be said, you feel it in your bones, your heart skips a beat and you can just look in that person's face and feel complete and happy. Its a rarity but it exists.
I have touched on this before but I bring it BACK up because there are just too many instances and people in and around my personal life in which I see people forcing themselves to believe they are in love. Why want and hope for an emotion that is not there or maybe has not ever been there. Are you remaining in a situation for appearances purposes? Are you doing it because you are afraid to be alone? What is it?
Love comes and it comes at the most unexpected times! I have told so many people this. Love also comes from people who you may not initially had any type of interest in and wasn't looking for it from but that person showed and proved it on a level that swept you off your feet.
Love is not just feeling good during a session of intimacy, love is not taking me out every other weekend to dinner and a movie, love is connecting with an individual where not so many others can. Love is laughing at the same things without having to say what you are laughing at. Love is watching the person's movement and feeling a rush of adrenaline. Love is listening, love is nurturing, love is not wanting to be any other place but with that person. Love is wishing you were with them when you are not with them and you just left them!
Love is being ride or die, got your back no matter what. Love is letting you hang with your boys/girls, and not stressing you out about it. Love is free, love just is.
Yes it is different for everyone, but I know what it is not. Love is not possession, love is not abuse, love is not being selfish, love is not jealous, love is not pety and its not EASY to find these days.
I know LOVE. I know him very well. But as Shakespeare said "The course of true love never did run smooth". So expect to feel the euphoria...welcome it in! embrace but know that Love is a pain in the "bockside"...as my Belizian mama would say.
You live, you love and you WILL hurt! But its all worth it. Don't let the pain that comes from one love steer you from embracing the new wave of Love coming your way. Don't force nothing that is not happening naturally. Love ALWAYS HAPPENS NATURALLY! Remember that too. So let love come and go if it must. Let the door of your heart remain open because if you close it...you shut off your soul from flying and spirit from dancing!
When I speak of love I don't just speak of romantic, intimate relationships either! I speak of relationships you have with your girls, your boys and your family. All relationships. I was just telling me homeboy yesterday "I love your girl...don't be jealous".lol. He was like I am! lol. He was kidding, but that's my home girl and I love her and I mean it! I love our friendship and I would not trade it in for nothing.
Love is taking time to spend it with someone else. So what you are tired, so what it's cold, so what you dont have a ride...when you love someones's company you are down to roll with them and be in their present if they need you too, and I am lucky to have that from my homegirl. She is down for me and I am down for her no matter what! She keeps her word and i can appreciate that.
This past weekend I hung out with my homies and we had some of the best fun in a long time, and we were just acting silly and laughing and eating and that's LOVE! Like it is not all about "intimacy"...
I love my cousin who I share some of the funniest stories with on the daily because we are so much alike! She is really my sister! I can talk to her like no one else! She is a walking genius too..she knows everything and she is knowing LOVE these days! *winks*.
I love my aunt who if I ever need to call her to do me favor she will and she has...(I need a recommendation letter like now, she would do and has done it..she knows who she is). I always talk about the love for my parents who instilled the best values and integrity in me. I love my second mom too. I am not married but I have always held my "mother-n-law" in high regard because she has been there for me as if she pushed me out.
I love my girls who I have known for years (we call ourselves the FAB 4) and I can always depend on them to come and support something I am doing no matter what.
I love my O berries...she knows who she is.
I love you all who read my blog and hit me up and tell me how much you enjoyed it and how you needed that. I love you soo much! I am in a space of LOVE...and I am taking it all in. No one can steal my high. I am freee to be and free to love and as a special someone would say "there is nothing you can do about it" -- (Divine quote)
I LOVE YOU ALL!!!!