NYC is what a friend of mine has once described as " Flashy Splashy and Extra". It is also a beautiful place to live, not only because it is the capital of all things FRESH and NEW, it's always something to do, and always SOMEBODY to do as well. How could people not be sooo physically stimulated in a city where finding a date/mate can feel like the 8th floor at SAKS ...tooo many FAB choices to choose from!
It makes it difficult for a person who is attractive, sensible, and driven to think of NOT getting the best of what this city has to offer, and in many cases that can include sampling some of someone elses "goodies", because hey....why not.
The bigger problem at hand occurs when the music stops and you are dealing with the person that has been with about 4 to 5 of your friends. SMH! Now for some, this does not matter, because hey, the past was the past and that should be the least of your worries, but then again if your current fling has been with Melissa, and you know Melissa has been through the hustlers/baller's/rappers/and Executive's of the tri-state and in addition you know she is not the most "hygienic" girl out the bunch..this can clearly make you wanna scream!!!!
It really is hard out here for some who pride giving up their round trip ticket to heaven so easily, especially when so many women will let anyone board their planes for free with no boarding pass. (figuratively speaking) . It is these women who make it hard out here for so many others, and then make it even harder to want to take something seriously with someone when you know where they have been and how they have been touched.
When it's all said and done...All is fair in love, and fabulousness in NYC..right? Brush your shoulders off and enjoy the youthfulness, adventure and excitement that comes along with mating season!
You know how it is when the weather breaks here....the music starts playing....and everybody is fighting for a nice "chair" to sit on. All I can say is just be safe!!!!
Have a FABNIFICENT weekend!!!! 80 degrees is on the come up!
XOXOXO!
LadyDee....
Showing posts with label Sex. Show all posts
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Thursday, April 23, 2009
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
Easy loving comes a dime a dozen....
Its a sad day when you see a 53 year old woman say "He bought me 2 drinks...What am I supposed to do... not put out"? SMH on this one until I am dizzy. I was watching Oprah last night and a woman of that age actually said that and laughed! I could not believe it.
I mean granted in this day and age..men use bottles and VIP as an extension of there lack of thereof, and some of them can take on this attitude as if you are supposed to supply them with some of the goodies just because he allowed you to drink on his bottle of overpriced liqueur, and you danced with him a couple times in a night. Therefore you should just know what is going down once you leave the party, bar or where ever you may be.
Of course any woman with a high regard for who she is and knows herself, will NOT equate a man catering to her and offering her something as small as a drink the chance to be invited to the goodness and quality that she possess between her legs. BUT, I am well aware that there are some ladies who think this is OK and they are making it harder for those who don't.
You can give some of these women the benefit of the doubt in some cases and say "hey, maybe she really is attracted to the guy and whole heartily wants to take him home and sample what he has to offer", but in this day and age with the all the stuff circulating...Is it even worth that? I have heard too many horror stories about sleeping with someone once and catching a disease EVEN when you think you are being safe wearing a condom.
There are too many types of unsanitary, unhygienic folks running around looking fine as they wanna be. That is the craziest part of it all. The most attractive folks are the ones burning alive! Sad but true. Be careful out here and get to know a person before you offer them a piece of yourself..because in actuality when they lay down with you they WILL walk away with a piece of you.
Another crazy thing I heard on this same show was a girl calling in to say she basically is a christian woman and decided to wait for marriage before having sex but she wants to participate in "heavy petting" and "oral" with the guys she is dating. WHAT?!!! This had me actually laughing out loud! The icing on the cake is she said "I will receive oral not give it". OK...What planet is she living on and what guy is willing to go through this with her over and over again before making a clean exit. FAST! Which will then have her dating more and more men , adding on to her roster and her receiving oral sex, which puts her in the BURNING ALIVE crew I mentioned above, because you are more ample to catch even more diseases through oral.
I am concerned about the logic that some of the ladies have these days. It just isn't smart and it does not make any sense for the long term. Start to wise up and start HOLDING out on your goods! Men WILL wait if they really like you and that's the bottom line. They will be forced to get to know the real you, and they may like who that is before he gets to see your other sides. Sure, he may get some in between his waiting period with you because after all HE IS A MAN...But that has nothing to do with you.
I have heard some of my homies say "She refused to give me some, and even though I can call up 5 chicks right now willing to hit me off, I don't even want nobody else but her"...So if your are a grade A level Dame then he will remain in line and stay focused, and if he stops and ceases all communication then I have to say he was whack anyway.
Easy loving comes a dime a dozen....step your game up and make him remember this ain't easy...because you are worth it!
Happy hunting :).
Have a Happy Tuesday!
XOXOXO
I mean granted in this day and age..men use bottles and VIP as an extension of there lack of thereof, and some of them can take on this attitude as if you are supposed to supply them with some of the goodies just because he allowed you to drink on his bottle of overpriced liqueur, and you danced with him a couple times in a night. Therefore you should just know what is going down once you leave the party, bar or where ever you may be.
Of course any woman with a high regard for who she is and knows herself, will NOT equate a man catering to her and offering her something as small as a drink the chance to be invited to the goodness and quality that she possess between her legs. BUT, I am well aware that there are some ladies who think this is OK and they are making it harder for those who don't.
You can give some of these women the benefit of the doubt in some cases and say "hey, maybe she really is attracted to the guy and whole heartily wants to take him home and sample what he has to offer", but in this day and age with the all the stuff circulating...Is it even worth that? I have heard too many horror stories about sleeping with someone once and catching a disease EVEN when you think you are being safe wearing a condom.
There are too many types of unsanitary, unhygienic folks running around looking fine as they wanna be. That is the craziest part of it all. The most attractive folks are the ones burning alive! Sad but true. Be careful out here and get to know a person before you offer them a piece of yourself..because in actuality when they lay down with you they WILL walk away with a piece of you.
Another crazy thing I heard on this same show was a girl calling in to say she basically is a christian woman and decided to wait for marriage before having sex but she wants to participate in "heavy petting" and "oral" with the guys she is dating. WHAT?!!! This had me actually laughing out loud! The icing on the cake is she said "I will receive oral not give it". OK...What planet is she living on and what guy is willing to go through this with her over and over again before making a clean exit. FAST! Which will then have her dating more and more men , adding on to her roster and her receiving oral sex, which puts her in the BURNING ALIVE crew I mentioned above, because you are more ample to catch even more diseases through oral.
I am concerned about the logic that some of the ladies have these days. It just isn't smart and it does not make any sense for the long term. Start to wise up and start HOLDING out on your goods! Men WILL wait if they really like you and that's the bottom line. They will be forced to get to know the real you, and they may like who that is before he gets to see your other sides. Sure, he may get some in between his waiting period with you because after all HE IS A MAN...But that has nothing to do with you.
I have heard some of my homies say "She refused to give me some, and even though I can call up 5 chicks right now willing to hit me off, I don't even want nobody else but her"...So if your are a grade A level Dame then he will remain in line and stay focused, and if he stops and ceases all communication then I have to say he was whack anyway.
Easy loving comes a dime a dozen....step your game up and make him remember this ain't easy...because you are worth it!
Happy hunting :).
Have a Happy Tuesday!
XOXOXO
Thursday, February 12, 2009
V-DAY SPECIAL! (awwww I just had to)
Can you remember your "first time"? Well I don't think anybody ever forgets! It was either Dreadful or it made you do belly flops in heaven for weeks on end because everything seem so perfect!
In this day and age, the first time can start as early as 10 (SMH) or can be as late as 35! I still have to shake my head to this one because the thought of living on this planet without any sort of LOVING for 35 years makes my head go into a migraine trance. I know someone to this day who is suffering from this. (PRAYERS)
When people first start a "new" relationship, (and this does not mean they are boyfriend/girlfriend) just means they are spending time together, it feels FAB! It's brand new, fresh , and nothing can take them off their HIGH..it is the best feeling in the world.
The feeling you feel is not by accident either, there is actually some sort of chemical that is being released from your brain cells when you are falling in love with someone and many doctors and scientists take this Love thing pretty serious.
Basically they say there are 3 stages of love:
LUST (we all know this tooo well), ATTRACTION (we know him even better) and ATTACHMENT (We wish we never knew this one sometimes I am sure). The crazy thing is each of theses stages releases a chemical and hormones are triggered with it, that makes us get those feelings.
Per researchers at Rutgers University (BIG UPS TO RUTGERS)
Stage 1: LUST
This is the first stage of love and is driven by the sex hormones (Starting off SMH) testosterone and oestrogen – in both men and women.
Stage 2: ATTRACTION
This is the amazing time when you are truly love-struck and can think of little else. Scientists think that three main neurotransmitters are involved in this stage; adrenaline, dopamine and serotonin.
Adrenaline
The initial stages of falling for someone activates your stress response, increasing your blood levels of adrenalin and cortisol. This has the charming effect that when you unexpectedly bump into your new love, you start to sweat, your heart races and your mouth goes dry.
Dopamine
This chemical stimulates ‘desire and reward’ by triggering an intense rush of pleasure. It has the same effect on the brain as taking cocaine! YES! COCAINE! This is why the ladies go crazy! Just as drugs give you that high, if you don't see your love or a man seems to be "dipping out on you" you are ready to kill like pookie from New Jack City to secure your goods!
Serotonin
And finally, serotonin. One of love's most important chemicals that may explain why when you’re falling in love, your new lover keeps popping into your thoughts.
Stage 3: ATTACHEMENT
Attachment is the bond that keeps couples together long enough for them to have and raise children. Scientists think there might be two major hormones involved in this feeling of attachment; oxytocin and vasopressin.
Oxytocin is considered the The cuddle hormone and is released by both men and woman during orgasm.
It probably deepens the feelings of attachment and makes couples feel much closer to one another after they have had sex. The theory goes that the more sex a couple has, the deeper their bond becomes. ONE MORE TIME!!!!! more sex a couple has, the deeper their bond becomes.
This would explain the high divorce rates in AMERICA because woman and men tend to STOP having sex after marriage...(just my thoughts!) Therefore they grow apart and the mistress is born!
Vasopressin
Vasopressin is another important hormone in the long-term commitment stage and is released after sex.
We are balls of energy but we also have a lot of chemical action going on in these bodies of ours! We must tend to them, stay balanced and live a balanced SEXUAL life! When you have or make love...it makes you feel good! I don't know about you , but I can always tell when my girls are getting the goodness because they are glowing, they are happy, they are bouncing in their stride down the block and they are ooozzzingggg FABULOSITY! It is what it is!
You can always tell a bitter cold miserable woman who has not opened up shop since The wonder Years was on Network TV. (I really miss that show - *blank stares*) OK!
So .....In the spirit of V-Day (which I totally think is overrated and corny...but many don't and I thought I would do a blog that would be a reflection of all the love be it, fake or genuine in the air this weekend ---
HAVE FUN, LIVE IT ALLLLL THE WAY UP, and BE SEXY! It actually feels pretty goodddd!!!!! Be SAFE before anything else!
Love you GUYSSSS!!!!!!!
XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO
GET IT! OOOWWWWWW!
In this day and age, the first time can start as early as 10 (SMH) or can be as late as 35! I still have to shake my head to this one because the thought of living on this planet without any sort of LOVING for 35 years makes my head go into a migraine trance. I know someone to this day who is suffering from this. (PRAYERS)
When people first start a "new" relationship, (and this does not mean they are boyfriend/girlfriend) just means they are spending time together, it feels FAB! It's brand new, fresh , and nothing can take them off their HIGH..it is the best feeling in the world.
The feeling you feel is not by accident either, there is actually some sort of chemical that is being released from your brain cells when you are falling in love with someone and many doctors and scientists take this Love thing pretty serious.
Basically they say there are 3 stages of love:
LUST (we all know this tooo well), ATTRACTION (we know him even better) and ATTACHMENT (We wish we never knew this one sometimes I am sure). The crazy thing is each of theses stages releases a chemical and hormones are triggered with it, that makes us get those feelings.
Per researchers at Rutgers University (BIG UPS TO RUTGERS)
Stage 1: LUST
This is the first stage of love and is driven by the sex hormones (Starting off SMH) testosterone and oestrogen – in both men and women.
Stage 2: ATTRACTION
This is the amazing time when you are truly love-struck and can think of little else. Scientists think that three main neurotransmitters are involved in this stage; adrenaline, dopamine and serotonin.
Adrenaline
The initial stages of falling for someone activates your stress response, increasing your blood levels of adrenalin and cortisol. This has the charming effect that when you unexpectedly bump into your new love, you start to sweat, your heart races and your mouth goes dry.
Dopamine
This chemical stimulates ‘desire and reward’ by triggering an intense rush of pleasure. It has the same effect on the brain as taking cocaine! YES! COCAINE! This is why the ladies go crazy! Just as drugs give you that high, if you don't see your love or a man seems to be "dipping out on you" you are ready to kill like pookie from New Jack City to secure your goods!
Serotonin
And finally, serotonin. One of love's most important chemicals that may explain why when you’re falling in love, your new lover keeps popping into your thoughts.
Stage 3: ATTACHEMENT
Attachment is the bond that keeps couples together long enough for them to have and raise children. Scientists think there might be two major hormones involved in this feeling of attachment; oxytocin and vasopressin.
Oxytocin is considered the The cuddle hormone and is released by both men and woman during orgasm.
It probably deepens the feelings of attachment and makes couples feel much closer to one another after they have had sex. The theory goes that the more sex a couple has, the deeper their bond becomes. ONE MORE TIME!!!!! more sex a couple has, the deeper their bond becomes.
This would explain the high divorce rates in AMERICA because woman and men tend to STOP having sex after marriage...(just my thoughts!) Therefore they grow apart and the mistress is born!
Vasopressin
Vasopressin is another important hormone in the long-term commitment stage and is released after sex.
We are balls of energy but we also have a lot of chemical action going on in these bodies of ours! We must tend to them, stay balanced and live a balanced SEXUAL life! When you have or make love...it makes you feel good! I don't know about you , but I can always tell when my girls are getting the goodness because they are glowing, they are happy, they are bouncing in their stride down the block and they are ooozzzingggg FABULOSITY! It is what it is!
You can always tell a bitter cold miserable woman who has not opened up shop since The wonder Years was on Network TV. (I really miss that show - *blank stares*) OK!
So .....In the spirit of V-Day (which I totally think is overrated and corny...but many don't and I thought I would do a blog that would be a reflection of all the love be it, fake or genuine in the air this weekend ---
HAVE FUN, LIVE IT ALLLLL THE WAY UP, and BE SEXY! It actually feels pretty goodddd!!!!! Be SAFE before anything else!
Love you GUYSSSS!!!!!!!
XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO
GET IT! OOOWWWWWW!
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