Can you remember your "first time"? Well I don't think anybody ever forgets! It was either Dreadful or it made you do belly flops in heaven for weeks on end because everything seem so perfect!
In this day and age, the first time can start as early as 10 (SMH) or can be as late as 35! I still have to shake my head to this one because the thought of living on this planet without any sort of LOVING for 35 years makes my head go into a migraine trance. I know someone to this day who is suffering from this. (PRAYERS)
When people first start a "new" relationship, (and this does not mean they are boyfriend/girlfriend) just means they are spending time together, it feels FAB! It's brand new, fresh , and nothing can take them off their HIGH..it is the best feeling in the world.
The feeling you feel is not by accident either, there is actually some sort of chemical that is being released from your brain cells when you are falling in love with someone and many doctors and scientists take this Love thing pretty serious.
Basically they say there are 3 stages of love:
LUST (we all know this tooo well), ATTRACTION (we know him even better) and ATTACHMENT (We wish we never knew this one sometimes I am sure). The crazy thing is each of theses stages releases a chemical and hormones are triggered with it, that makes us get those feelings.
Per researchers at Rutgers University (BIG UPS TO RUTGERS)
Stage 1: LUST
This is the first stage of love and is driven by the sex hormones (Starting off SMH) testosterone and oestrogen – in both men and women.
Stage 2: ATTRACTION
This is the amazing time when you are truly love-struck and can think of little else. Scientists think that three main neurotransmitters are involved in this stage; adrenaline, dopamine and serotonin.
The initial stages of falling for someone activates your stress response, increasing your blood levels of adrenalin and cortisol. This has the charming effect that when you unexpectedly bump into your new love, you start to sweat, your heart races and your mouth goes dry.
This chemical stimulates ‘desire and reward’ by triggering an intense rush of pleasure. It has the same effect on the brain as taking cocaine! YES! COCAINE! This is why the ladies go crazy! Just as drugs give you that high, if you don't see your love or a man seems to be "dipping out on you" you are ready to kill like pookie from New Jack City to secure your goods!
And finally, serotonin. One of love's most important chemicals that may explain why when you’re falling in love, your new lover keeps popping into your thoughts.
Stage 3: ATTACHEMENT
Attachment is the bond that keeps couples together long enough for them to have and raise children. Scientists think there might be two major hormones involved in this feeling of attachment; oxytocin and vasopressin.
Oxytocin is considered the The cuddle hormone and is released by both men and woman during orgasm.
It probably deepens the feelings of attachment and makes couples feel much closer to one another after they have had sex. The theory goes that the more sex a couple has, the deeper their bond becomes. ONE MORE TIME!!!!! more sex a couple has, the deeper their bond becomes.
This would explain the high divorce rates in AMERICA because woman and men tend to STOP having sex after marriage...(just my thoughts!) Therefore they grow apart and the mistress is born!
Vasopressin is another important hormone in the long-term commitment stage and is released after sex.
We are balls of energy but we also have a lot of chemical action going on in these bodies of ours! We must tend to them, stay balanced and live a balanced SEXUAL life! When you have or make love...it makes you feel good! I don't know about you , but I can always tell when my girls are getting the goodness because they are glowing, they are happy, they are bouncing in their stride down the block and they are ooozzzingggg FABULOSITY! It is what it is!
You can always tell a bitter cold miserable woman who has not opened up shop since The wonder Years was on Network TV. (I really miss that show - *blank stares*) OK!
So .....In the spirit of V-Day (which I totally think is overrated and corny...but many don't and I thought I would do a blog that would be a reflection of all the love be it, fake or genuine in the air this weekend ---
HAVE FUN, LIVE IT ALLLLL THE WAY UP, and BE SEXY! It actually feels pretty goodddd!!!!! Be SAFE before anything else!
Love you GUYSSSS!!!!!!!
GET IT! OOOWWWWWW!