We tend to hear "a good man is hard to find" but is that true?
I have met and know so many good men. The problem is that these good men are with women who are insecure, bitchy, naggers, complainers, and treat their men like they are toddlers in Pre-school. A man should always feel like a MAN! PERIOD. Unless he chooses otherwise. What is this new wave of treatment being bestowed upon men in relationships, where they allow their women to tell them how to act, what to say, what to do, where to go, when they can do it, how they can do it, what activities they can take part in, and what time they can be on their phones!
Don't get me wrong. RESPECT is RESPECT, and a good man will always respect the union he has with the woman he loves, but let him do him naturally and if he messes up...then he messes up, and that is to be dealt with accordingly. Do not discipline and guide a grown man to not be who he is naturally. What sense does that make? If I have to tell you how to love me and treat me, I could be alone.
This approach may appear a little "lackadaisical" to some women but it has been my experience that if you ever have to monitor and check on your man like you are getting a check cut from the Feds, then you maybe need to re-assess if you should be with that person at all. Something is clearly not right out the gate, and you will always feel that "Feeling" in your gut. So why force yourself to take it to the next level and check behind him, something is wrong with that picture.
Most times the man in this position is usually a really great, deserving guy who is not checking for the non-sense his woman thinks he is checking for, BUT, that woman has so much "triflarity" "insecurities" and "pyschonisms" (yes I made up some words for the purpose of this blog) that she causes her own sanity to slip away. The solution to the problem lies within her...not the man. She has to change herself!
The most bewildering part of this whole scenario is that the women in these relationships are never satisfied and complain about what their man is not doing. When they should ask themselves why would your man want to be excited about doing anything for anyone who is just a nagging, bitchy, negative ball of energy. You can't attract bees with no honey...be sweet...love your man and let him live his life!
You may think you are on your job and there is nobody getting close to your man by your security efforts but guess what...he is unhappy inside and is waiting for the right outlet to let it all out and to be vulnerable to the opposite behavior you give off. You are pushing him away and making him feel imprisoned, restrained and unable to be him, and believe me...no man wants to feel this way.
I can write 2 pages of names of men who come frustrated, and looking for advice from their crazed women, and the women have no clue how unhappy these men are. They do not know how if given the opportunity, the right woman can come and snatch their man up in a heartbeat, because she treats him right. And as the song goes, it comes as an epiphany.
Start appreciating the men in your life and treat them with respect, decency and admiration! Especially when they deserve it. What is wrong with you ..don't you know how many women wish they had a man who they could call THEIR OWN, and if you have one and you aren't loving him the right way...then remember she is waiting right there to show him what is really good.
Love the one's your with...especially when they deserve it!
LOVE LIFE LAUGH! PLENTY!