Is it OK to say that I love me some beautiful black women! No I am not a Lesbian. I just love women who embrace their womaness and feel free to be the woman that they are naturally.
There is something about the scent of a woman. The touch of a woman. The kiss of a woman. The hug, the advice, the essence. It gets even more fun and I am in full gratitude when a woman embraces her femininity. She loves to be clean. Smell good, Dress sharp, have flawless hair, nails, and posture.
It does not matter what size you are. We come in all shapes. Small, Petite, Tall, slim, round, curvy...it is a beautiful thing to compliment and flatter who you are. It baffles me to see women who do not put an ounce at all into their appearance and make an effort to try to be the fly, powerful, queen that is in her. That does not happen by playing small at any level.
Make noise with your ambition. Let laziness and lack of motivation never catch you.
Make regular deposits into YOU!
Love the skin you are in!!!!
LOVE...
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Tuesday, October 6, 2009
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Learn to Love what you have while you have it.
We tend to hear "a good man is hard to find" but is that true?
I have met and know so many good men. The problem is that these good men are with women who are insecure, bitchy, naggers, complainers, and treat their men like they are toddlers in Pre-school. A man should always feel like a MAN! PERIOD. Unless he chooses otherwise. What is this new wave of treatment being bestowed upon men in relationships, where they allow their women to tell them how to act, what to say, what to do, where to go, when they can do it, how they can do it, what activities they can take part in, and what time they can be on their phones!
Don't get me wrong. RESPECT is RESPECT, and a good man will always respect the union he has with the woman he loves, but let him do him naturally and if he messes up...then he messes up, and that is to be dealt with accordingly. Do not discipline and guide a grown man to not be who he is naturally. What sense does that make? If I have to tell you how to love me and treat me, I could be alone.
This approach may appear a little "lackadaisical" to some women but it has been my experience that if you ever have to monitor and check on your man like you are getting a check cut from the Feds, then you maybe need to re-assess if you should be with that person at all. Something is clearly not right out the gate, and you will always feel that "Feeling" in your gut. So why force yourself to take it to the next level and check behind him, something is wrong with that picture.
Most times the man in this position is usually a really great, deserving guy who is not checking for the non-sense his woman thinks he is checking for, BUT, that woman has so much "triflarity" "insecurities" and "pyschonisms" (yes I made up some words for the purpose of this blog) that she causes her own sanity to slip away. The solution to the problem lies within her...not the man. She has to change herself!
The most bewildering part of this whole scenario is that the women in these relationships are never satisfied and complain about what their man is not doing. When they should ask themselves why would your man want to be excited about doing anything for anyone who is just a nagging, bitchy, negative ball of energy. You can't attract bees with no honey...be sweet...love your man and let him live his life!
You may think you are on your job and there is nobody getting close to your man by your security efforts but guess what...he is unhappy inside and is waiting for the right outlet to let it all out and to be vulnerable to the opposite behavior you give off. You are pushing him away and making him feel imprisoned, restrained and unable to be him, and believe me...no man wants to feel this way.
I can write 2 pages of names of men who come frustrated, and looking for advice from their crazed women, and the women have no clue how unhappy these men are. They do not know how if given the opportunity, the right woman can come and snatch their man up in a heartbeat, because she treats him right. And as the song goes, it comes as an epiphany.
Start appreciating the men in your life and treat them with respect, decency and admiration! Especially when they deserve it. What is wrong with you ..don't you know how many women wish they had a man who they could call THEIR OWN, and if you have one and you aren't loving him the right way...then remember she is waiting right there to show him what is really good.
Love the one's your with...especially when they deserve it!
LOVE LIFE LAUGH! PLENTY!
XOXOXO!
I have met and know so many good men. The problem is that these good men are with women who are insecure, bitchy, naggers, complainers, and treat their men like they are toddlers in Pre-school. A man should always feel like a MAN! PERIOD. Unless he chooses otherwise. What is this new wave of treatment being bestowed upon men in relationships, where they allow their women to tell them how to act, what to say, what to do, where to go, when they can do it, how they can do it, what activities they can take part in, and what time they can be on their phones!
Don't get me wrong. RESPECT is RESPECT, and a good man will always respect the union he has with the woman he loves, but let him do him naturally and if he messes up...then he messes up, and that is to be dealt with accordingly. Do not discipline and guide a grown man to not be who he is naturally. What sense does that make? If I have to tell you how to love me and treat me, I could be alone.
This approach may appear a little "lackadaisical" to some women but it has been my experience that if you ever have to monitor and check on your man like you are getting a check cut from the Feds, then you maybe need to re-assess if you should be with that person at all. Something is clearly not right out the gate, and you will always feel that "Feeling" in your gut. So why force yourself to take it to the next level and check behind him, something is wrong with that picture.
Most times the man in this position is usually a really great, deserving guy who is not checking for the non-sense his woman thinks he is checking for, BUT, that woman has so much "triflarity" "insecurities" and "pyschonisms" (yes I made up some words for the purpose of this blog) that she causes her own sanity to slip away. The solution to the problem lies within her...not the man. She has to change herself!
The most bewildering part of this whole scenario is that the women in these relationships are never satisfied and complain about what their man is not doing. When they should ask themselves why would your man want to be excited about doing anything for anyone who is just a nagging, bitchy, negative ball of energy. You can't attract bees with no honey...be sweet...love your man and let him live his life!
You may think you are on your job and there is nobody getting close to your man by your security efforts but guess what...he is unhappy inside and is waiting for the right outlet to let it all out and to be vulnerable to the opposite behavior you give off. You are pushing him away and making him feel imprisoned, restrained and unable to be him, and believe me...no man wants to feel this way.
I can write 2 pages of names of men who come frustrated, and looking for advice from their crazed women, and the women have no clue how unhappy these men are. They do not know how if given the opportunity, the right woman can come and snatch their man up in a heartbeat, because she treats him right. And as the song goes, it comes as an epiphany.
Start appreciating the men in your life and treat them with respect, decency and admiration! Especially when they deserve it. What is wrong with you ..don't you know how many women wish they had a man who they could call THEIR OWN, and if you have one and you aren't loving him the right way...then remember she is waiting right there to show him what is really good.
Love the one's your with...especially when they deserve it!
LOVE LIFE LAUGH! PLENTY!
XOXOXO!
Thursday, May 21, 2009
Tanya or TOMMY?! I can't tell...
Why is it that so many women out here have this hardcore, masculine, don't need a man, "I will slice you" mentality? **NEWSFLASH**, You are scaring men off. LITERALLY.
It is so funny I was JUST talking with a friend of mine (who is male) who says he went on a date with this girl recently, he kept bumping into while he was out. He was like "DEE, shawty was something serious! Had me imagining having kids and everything just off the physical" SMH ...
Anyway, he says he took her to this nice restaurant in Chelsea, and everything was great until she started loosening up after the 3rd glass of wine and starting being "herself". She was talking about how she gonna smack some girl at another table in the restaurant because she kept looking at their table, then as she was talking she kept pounding her fists out after every sentence and every other word was being delivered like she was playing the role of "Tommy" in Belly.
All my friend could do was just act like she was one of the dudes, and let the night go on. He clearly never called her again and even though he said he would have loved to have "sampled it" since she was sooo hot, he could not take his mind there based on her masculine qualities. She was not "Delicate" enough for him...as he said.
I have been hearing this a lot now from men and I do not know if ladies are aware of this, when they are doing it. Classic scenario is a guy sees this beautiful woman and she opens her mouth and it is like you are talking to "Ronnie and nem" up the block. She is saying "That n*** this, and YO son, and pounding her fists after every word, and every word is f** and mother **** that"
This is just so not cool!
I happen to know a lot of girls/women, and I love most of them...lol....But I must say out of all the ladies I know and kick it with, only 3 come to mind who I would say " Yea, so and so is real hardcore and will lay you out, and it shows" Most if not all of the women around me act like ladies, and they are not fighters. They will handle their business if need be but they are not LOOKING for fights, looking to provoke any, or get a kick out of that type of behavior.
I am not saying us ladies don't sometimes curse and express ourselves, but to be loud, boisterous and over the top with that even is really not attractive to men at all. UNLESS, maybe your man is one of the OG's in your hood, in which case most men like this and love them a "rough hardcore misses"....*blank stares*
If you want you a good, respectable, clean cut FINE man...like most of us do, you should not be carrying yourself so BRUTE at all...I don't care what anyone says.
In addition to that, all that " I don't need a man" jargon is played too! If you are not a lesbian and you like men, then why wouldn't you want a man to make you FEEL like a woman in every possible way? Those words will never come out of my mouth because I guess I have been tooo blessed to know the fabulousness that accompanies having a GOOD MAN in your life! NO WAY!
I am not saying I "NEED" him to be who I am...and I am not advocating that to ladies in anyway that you NEED a man to complete you or validate your existence...of course not! What you do need though is to feel alive and have certain sensors and nerve endings in your woman makeup stroked every now and then, and its nothing wrong with that at all. So stop saying you don't NEED it and WANT it.
I know some women have children and they have no help from the men who made them at all, I know some women lack having a male figure to support and play that role in their life in various areas, so they have to play it. Sometimes it is hard for some women to come out of that role, because they play it all the time, so when they do have the company of a man around, they are just being who they always have to be. I do think that being conscious of it helps a great deal.
Maya Angelou says in her Poem "In all ways a Woman".....
"Being a woman is hard work. Not without joy and even ecstasy, but still relentless, unending work.
Becoming an old female may require only being born with certain genitalia, inheriting long-living genes and the fortune not to be run over by an out-of-control truck, but to become and remain a woman command the existence and employment of genius"
Ladies BE LADIES! BE FIERCE and Keep yourself on that THRONE high!
LOVE YOU ALL!
XOXOXOXO
It is so funny I was JUST talking with a friend of mine (who is male) who says he went on a date with this girl recently, he kept bumping into while he was out. He was like "DEE, shawty was something serious! Had me imagining having kids and everything just off the physical" SMH ...
Anyway, he says he took her to this nice restaurant in Chelsea, and everything was great until she started loosening up after the 3rd glass of wine and starting being "herself". She was talking about how she gonna smack some girl at another table in the restaurant because she kept looking at their table, then as she was talking she kept pounding her fists out after every sentence and every other word was being delivered like she was playing the role of "Tommy" in Belly.
All my friend could do was just act like she was one of the dudes, and let the night go on. He clearly never called her again and even though he said he would have loved to have "sampled it" since she was sooo hot, he could not take his mind there based on her masculine qualities. She was not "Delicate" enough for him...as he said.
I have been hearing this a lot now from men and I do not know if ladies are aware of this, when they are doing it. Classic scenario is a guy sees this beautiful woman and she opens her mouth and it is like you are talking to "Ronnie and nem" up the block. She is saying "That n*** this, and YO son, and pounding her fists after every word, and every word is f** and mother **** that"
This is just so not cool!
I happen to know a lot of girls/women, and I love most of them...lol....But I must say out of all the ladies I know and kick it with, only 3 come to mind who I would say " Yea, so and so is real hardcore and will lay you out, and it shows" Most if not all of the women around me act like ladies, and they are not fighters. They will handle their business if need be but they are not LOOKING for fights, looking to provoke any, or get a kick out of that type of behavior.
I am not saying us ladies don't sometimes curse and express ourselves, but to be loud, boisterous and over the top with that even is really not attractive to men at all. UNLESS, maybe your man is one of the OG's in your hood, in which case most men like this and love them a "rough hardcore misses"....*blank stares*
If you want you a good, respectable, clean cut FINE man...like most of us do, you should not be carrying yourself so BRUTE at all...I don't care what anyone says.
In addition to that, all that " I don't need a man" jargon is played too! If you are not a lesbian and you like men, then why wouldn't you want a man to make you FEEL like a woman in every possible way? Those words will never come out of my mouth because I guess I have been tooo blessed to know the fabulousness that accompanies having a GOOD MAN in your life! NO WAY!
I am not saying I "NEED" him to be who I am...and I am not advocating that to ladies in anyway that you NEED a man to complete you or validate your existence...of course not! What you do need though is to feel alive and have certain sensors and nerve endings in your woman makeup stroked every now and then, and its nothing wrong with that at all. So stop saying you don't NEED it and WANT it.
I know some women have children and they have no help from the men who made them at all, I know some women lack having a male figure to support and play that role in their life in various areas, so they have to play it. Sometimes it is hard for some women to come out of that role, because they play it all the time, so when they do have the company of a man around, they are just being who they always have to be. I do think that being conscious of it helps a great deal.
Maya Angelou says in her Poem "In all ways a Woman".....
"Being a woman is hard work. Not without joy and even ecstasy, but still relentless, unending work.
Becoming an old female may require only being born with certain genitalia, inheriting long-living genes and the fortune not to be run over by an out-of-control truck, but to become and remain a woman command the existence and employment of genius"
Ladies BE LADIES! BE FIERCE and Keep yourself on that THRONE high!
LOVE YOU ALL!
XOXOXOXO
Thursday, January 8, 2009
The Trifling Truffle! EVIL B**** are amongst us!
OK...so for my fellas this has been LONG overdue! "Dee why you always coming at us men"? and the most OUTRAGEOUS one "Dee, are you a male brasher"?...like DUH! NO! anybody who knows me KNOWS I praise and LOVE a good man! So ....Today I will focus on the anatomy of the female B***! And yes you read right!
As I watched a movie the other night with someone extremely close to me (I am withholding name for privacy), they went on to tell me about a story that I thought had to be the most trifling tale of 2009 thus far! and it goes a little something like this....
(Names have been changed to protect the innocent...NYC is smaller than you think). TRUE STORY.
Trevor and Omar are cousins. Omar's girl Sheila is BAD! Trevor always admired Sheila but never ever thought of pushing up out of respect. Circa 1995 Omar starts getting more familiar in the rap game, going on tour with big artists, rolling in the entourage's of HUGE names, and forgets about Sheila. Well as life happens, Trevor is there for Sheila while Omar is living the life. Trevor goes to Omar circa 2001 as a man like, " Bro, I love her, I know you and her are done, but out of respect I am thinking about proposing to Sheila". Omar is like "Wow, hey do you. I'm good. Wish you the best".
Life is sweet, Trevor does right by Sheila. Marries her they have 2 kids. Trevor decides to enlist in the army soon after. He cant get a break as a black man, and he goes for it. Of course since this is close to "9-11" they ship him right to Iraq. He writes, she responds..everything appears fine on the surface. He gets news ...He is finally going home...JUST RECENTLY!
So now we are at the present date 2009! He comes home to find out that Sheila not only has been seeing OMAR...she is 5 months PREGNANT by OMAR the other cousin!
NOW! This ish right here makes me wanna HOLLA! Here you are a man's wife, and his children's mother...and you have the nerve while this man is getting grenades thrown at his neck on the daily..risking his life, everyday in a foreign land so he can provide for you who ain't never worked a day in your life...you have the nerve to sleep with his cousin and get pregnant!
This is a typical, regular occurrence within our society...women can be some of the most trifling, conniving, selfish, gold digging, greedy, jealous, SHADY specimens I have ever seen. I have touched on this before with women and women but I will focus on the behavior of the B*** with the opposite sex today.
There are women who do the following, and I know this from experience, and my homeboys experience's. Here are some prime examples:
They date one man JUST to get closer to the next. They befriend the girlfriend of a man THEY want. They flirt with their homegirl's men behind their friends back. They have children by men and tell the men the kid's are hungry and use the money to get a doobie and some acyrlic on their bum nails! They call their baby father in the middle of the night claiming the baby is sick when in actuality when dude gets there she is standing there with a teddy on waiting to be smashed and she knows he just left his current girlfriend at home. They spend hours on the phone with you, gain your trust as a friend and start spreading rumors and lies to everyone and tells your business. They don't get up to go to work, even when they COULD, they rather sleep with Jason, Brock and Maurice to get their bills paid. They think because they ride, slip and slide with another woman's man that he belongs to her and he will leave his wife. They fight with other women in the street over men who aren't there's. They go through their man's phone, email and texts just to be nosy! This is horrible!
I can go on and on! The descriptions above are disgusting and unacceptable on all levels. The women I describe are among all of us, and you might be that woman. Do I care to curb my aggressions if you are ...NO! You must stop being a "Trifling Truffle".
That is the name of the these women. Why? Because most of these women appear to be pretty put together..hott...tempting.. and appealing as truffles are. Truffles are creamy delicate chocolate candies.....and who wouldn't want some of that? But underneath that buttermilk is some of the most deadliest venom of trife you wanna see...and men and women... BEWARE!
Women are very smart too...We know how to get what we want, and in a sly about way. She will ride you ...check your voicemail..after detecting the code and be out there doing EVERYTHING under the sun...and you wont have a clue! She will make you feel like you are her only knight in shining armor and turn around and share her goodness with your boys, because their paper is longer! She will be amongst you and your friends with your girl being there and she will talk nasty about how she can drop it likes its hot so she can secretly make you get excited IN FRONT of your girl. She will wear NOTHING but a bra and panties to the club because she wants someone to take her skank butt home. I could go on for days, and it makes me sad. It really does.
I love my Sisters! I love them so much! I love when women can truly love each other and form a bond and help each other to grow, but a sister like me, I cannot do this with just anybody. I am a woman with class, respect, and honor, and I work hard. YOU HEAR ME! Just as soooo many of us are, we cannot allow this beast into our circles.
We must start identifying the trifling truffle and calling it out and making sure to keep the trifling truffle away! I am not saying save the trifling truffle for she will be the only one to save herself! As the saying goes, "You can't turn a hoe into a housewife"..never have never will. She has to rehabilitate herself, she must see for herself that she can be a TROPHY TRUFFLE!
I am no longer trying to save these bitter specimens. I have befriended some trifling truffles in my day to try to help and encourage them and they always strike! I am done. I will love from a distance and encourage them in ways that won't drain my spirit.
As my friend said to me at the end of the conversation when he told me this unfortunate story he said, "Dee, you look surprised there are evil bitches in the world...you better know"....So I tell you .....BEWARE of the EVILNESS of the TRIFLING TRUFFLE..She is on the prowl looking for her next victim. And she may be wearing GUCCI shoes....lol.
LOVE YOU ALL!!!!!!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY BABYCAKES..BRIE!!!!
Have a great wekeend!!!! I plan to! BE SAFE!
XOXOXO
As I watched a movie the other night with someone extremely close to me (I am withholding name for privacy), they went on to tell me about a story that I thought had to be the most trifling tale of 2009 thus far! and it goes a little something like this....
(Names have been changed to protect the innocent...NYC is smaller than you think). TRUE STORY.
Trevor and Omar are cousins. Omar's girl Sheila is BAD! Trevor always admired Sheila but never ever thought of pushing up out of respect. Circa 1995 Omar starts getting more familiar in the rap game, going on tour with big artists, rolling in the entourage's of HUGE names, and forgets about Sheila. Well as life happens, Trevor is there for Sheila while Omar is living the life. Trevor goes to Omar circa 2001 as a man like, " Bro, I love her, I know you and her are done, but out of respect I am thinking about proposing to Sheila". Omar is like "Wow, hey do you. I'm good. Wish you the best".
Life is sweet, Trevor does right by Sheila. Marries her they have 2 kids. Trevor decides to enlist in the army soon after. He cant get a break as a black man, and he goes for it. Of course since this is close to "9-11" they ship him right to Iraq. He writes, she responds..everything appears fine on the surface. He gets news ...He is finally going home...JUST RECENTLY!
So now we are at the present date 2009! He comes home to find out that Sheila not only has been seeing OMAR...she is 5 months PREGNANT by OMAR the other cousin!
NOW! This ish right here makes me wanna HOLLA! Here you are a man's wife, and his children's mother...and you have the nerve while this man is getting grenades thrown at his neck on the daily..risking his life, everyday in a foreign land so he can provide for you who ain't never worked a day in your life...you have the nerve to sleep with his cousin and get pregnant!
This is a typical, regular occurrence within our society...women can be some of the most trifling, conniving, selfish, gold digging, greedy, jealous, SHADY specimens I have ever seen. I have touched on this before with women and women but I will focus on the behavior of the B*** with the opposite sex today.
There are women who do the following, and I know this from experience, and my homeboys experience's. Here are some prime examples:
They date one man JUST to get closer to the next. They befriend the girlfriend of a man THEY want. They flirt with their homegirl's men behind their friends back. They have children by men and tell the men the kid's are hungry and use the money to get a doobie and some acyrlic on their bum nails! They call their baby father in the middle of the night claiming the baby is sick when in actuality when dude gets there she is standing there with a teddy on waiting to be smashed and she knows he just left his current girlfriend at home. They spend hours on the phone with you, gain your trust as a friend and start spreading rumors and lies to everyone and tells your business. They don't get up to go to work, even when they COULD, they rather sleep with Jason, Brock and Maurice to get their bills paid. They think because they ride, slip and slide with another woman's man that he belongs to her and he will leave his wife. They fight with other women in the street over men who aren't there's. They go through their man's phone, email and texts just to be nosy! This is horrible!
I can go on and on! The descriptions above are disgusting and unacceptable on all levels. The women I describe are among all of us, and you might be that woman. Do I care to curb my aggressions if you are ...NO! You must stop being a "Trifling Truffle".
That is the name of the these women. Why? Because most of these women appear to be pretty put together..hott...tempting.. and appealing as truffles are. Truffles are creamy delicate chocolate candies.....and who wouldn't want some of that? But underneath that buttermilk is some of the most deadliest venom of trife you wanna see...and men and women... BEWARE!
Women are very smart too...We know how to get what we want, and in a sly about way. She will ride you ...check your voicemail..after detecting the code and be out there doing EVERYTHING under the sun...and you wont have a clue! She will make you feel like you are her only knight in shining armor and turn around and share her goodness with your boys, because their paper is longer! She will be amongst you and your friends with your girl being there and she will talk nasty about how she can drop it likes its hot so she can secretly make you get excited IN FRONT of your girl. She will wear NOTHING but a bra and panties to the club because she wants someone to take her skank butt home. I could go on for days, and it makes me sad. It really does.
I love my Sisters! I love them so much! I love when women can truly love each other and form a bond and help each other to grow, but a sister like me, I cannot do this with just anybody. I am a woman with class, respect, and honor, and I work hard. YOU HEAR ME! Just as soooo many of us are, we cannot allow this beast into our circles.
We must start identifying the trifling truffle and calling it out and making sure to keep the trifling truffle away! I am not saying save the trifling truffle for she will be the only one to save herself! As the saying goes, "You can't turn a hoe into a housewife"..never have never will. She has to rehabilitate herself, she must see for herself that she can be a TROPHY TRUFFLE!
I am no longer trying to save these bitter specimens. I have befriended some trifling truffles in my day to try to help and encourage them and they always strike! I am done. I will love from a distance and encourage them in ways that won't drain my spirit.
As my friend said to me at the end of the conversation when he told me this unfortunate story he said, "Dee, you look surprised there are evil bitches in the world...you better know"....So I tell you .....BEWARE of the EVILNESS of the TRIFLING TRUFFLE..She is on the prowl looking for her next victim. And she may be wearing GUCCI shoes....lol.
LOVE YOU ALL!!!!!!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY BABYCAKES..BRIE!!!!
Have a great wekeend!!!! I plan to! BE SAFE!
XOXOXO
Tuesday, January 6, 2009
What's the 411?
What is it about Mary J. songs that just always get women through some tough love times! Like I won't front, many of my friends will ride to the deaths defending Mary when she sounds a hot mess and I will be the first to say, "She aight, but she still can't sing"...this becomes an all out war and debate and people looking at me like I am crazy, but what I did not realize is that this woman has carried women through breakup's, through domestic situations, through falling in love and out of love and the message is always constant..."I am gonna be alright, cause I am fly".
One thing about Mary is she can rock a song and sing it from the pit of her soul and meet you at that road where you know she knows what you are feeling. Even if she is a little off key, she brings that wrath. I saw her in concert once, and she damn near brought the stage down (literally) she most definitely can tear up a stage. Energy, excitement and passion, that is the key to performing.
Anyway...Deandra, Why do you bring up Mary? Well I have so many albums in my i-pod..some are on auto pilot, like my soundtracks to my life...my Get hype music..my get it on music..OWWW!, you get the drift..but yesterday on my way home I decided to listen to some albums I have in my i-pod that I never listen to in its entirety, and believe it or not, Mary's last album Growing Pains is one I never dissected and listened to in its entirety.
Of course "Just Fine" ,"Grown Woman" and "Work that out" we have all heard and were bangers, but one song that moved me almost out the train seat yesterday was "Feel like a Woman". I was bugging by myself, had people looking like "What she got in HER ears"? I think MEN should play this song every single day before they leave the house...and before they rest their heads! WOW!
Please listen to this song, All I needed to hear was "If your on your way home, stop and buy me something, Boy, buy me a bag or buy me some shoes, This is a part of me I am trying to get you use to"....WHATTT! Now of course many will say ( and mostly men) "Why he can't just love her, or make a card, get creative with it. Why he gotta buy her something?". Yes he can be creative but why should us ladies take the things we love to receive in our lives out of the equation because you are with a man who does not hold these things valuable! Or a man who is tighter with his wallet then some latex skinny's. NO!
Everyone can jump on the "she a gold digger"..."she don't want me she just want gifts"..and don't mistake me..there ARE women out here to rob you for every penny you have and she still won't be satisfied. But a woman that has been riding and down with you for a long time, and has proven her loyalty and commitment to you DESERVES to be surprised every now and again with some Fabulosity and men are getting off easy when they are ALLOWED to fall short in this department!
I want little surprises all the time! That is who I am! My Mother did it for me growing up so I won't SETTLE for anything less. I was fortunate enough to get surprises every now and then from my man in my time, and it is one of the best feelings a woman can feel, especially when on top of that you are treated like fragile glass, and handled very delicately.....GIRLLLLL stop! lol.
Fellas if you cannot afford GUCCI or the new Christian Louboutin heels, then that is fine. Pick her up her favorite fragrance, a book she might like, hell call fresh direct and put in a major order and have her refrigerator stocked nicely with food and snacks and throw some stuff you like in it so she can cook it! (I am foodie and LOVE this surprise....) But these are hints and ideas to getting that woman to be at your beck and call and doing EVERYTHING you want!
It is not all about the material but the energy and time you take to make her day feel like a little easier.
Read the lyrics then listen to the song if you can! Pure HOTNESS! MARY keep speaking for the ladies and repping...That is why you are the QUEEN! :)
Love you all!!!!
XOXOXOXO
One thing about Mary is she can rock a song and sing it from the pit of her soul and meet you at that road where you know she knows what you are feeling. Even if she is a little off key, she brings that wrath. I saw her in concert once, and she damn near brought the stage down (literally) she most definitely can tear up a stage. Energy, excitement and passion, that is the key to performing.
Anyway...Deandra, Why do you bring up Mary? Well I have so many albums in my i-pod..some are on auto pilot, like my soundtracks to my life...my Get hype music..my get it on music..OWWW!, you get the drift..but yesterday on my way home I decided to listen to some albums I have in my i-pod that I never listen to in its entirety, and believe it or not, Mary's last album Growing Pains is one I never dissected and listened to in its entirety.
Of course "Just Fine" ,"Grown Woman" and "Work that out" we have all heard and were bangers, but one song that moved me almost out the train seat yesterday was "Feel like a Woman". I was bugging by myself, had people looking like "What she got in HER ears"? I think MEN should play this song every single day before they leave the house...and before they rest their heads! WOW!
Please listen to this song, All I needed to hear was "If your on your way home, stop and buy me something, Boy, buy me a bag or buy me some shoes, This is a part of me I am trying to get you use to"....WHATTT! Now of course many will say ( and mostly men) "Why he can't just love her, or make a card, get creative with it. Why he gotta buy her something?". Yes he can be creative but why should us ladies take the things we love to receive in our lives out of the equation because you are with a man who does not hold these things valuable! Or a man who is tighter with his wallet then some latex skinny's. NO!
Everyone can jump on the "she a gold digger"..."she don't want me she just want gifts"..and don't mistake me..there ARE women out here to rob you for every penny you have and she still won't be satisfied. But a woman that has been riding and down with you for a long time, and has proven her loyalty and commitment to you DESERVES to be surprised every now and again with some Fabulosity and men are getting off easy when they are ALLOWED to fall short in this department!
I want little surprises all the time! That is who I am! My Mother did it for me growing up so I won't SETTLE for anything less. I was fortunate enough to get surprises every now and then from my man in my time, and it is one of the best feelings a woman can feel, especially when on top of that you are treated like fragile glass, and handled very delicately.....GIRLLLLL stop! lol.
Fellas if you cannot afford GUCCI or the new Christian Louboutin heels, then that is fine. Pick her up her favorite fragrance, a book she might like, hell call fresh direct and put in a major order and have her refrigerator stocked nicely with food and snacks and throw some stuff you like in it so she can cook it! (I am foodie and LOVE this surprise....) But these are hints and ideas to getting that woman to be at your beck and call and doing EVERYTHING you want!
It is not all about the material but the energy and time you take to make her day feel like a little easier.
Read the lyrics then listen to the song if you can! Pure HOTNESS! MARY keep speaking for the ladies and repping...That is why you are the QUEEN! :)
Love you all!!!!
XOXOXOXO
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