Friday, September 12, 2008

Is your word your bond? Take time to smell the flowers

Why is it so hard sometimes to keep our word? We can be around some of our favorite people and say "yea we gonna do this with them and yes I will go there with you" and then when the time comes (sometimes) we loose all energy, all enthusiasm and strength to follow through.

This just does not happen with making plans, but more importantly we let people down with the promises that end up empty that we make to each other. Sometimes in relationships (not always romantic relationships, but in general) a man or woman can say "Yes, I will do better, yes I will be what you want me to be, Yes I can see myself meeting that goal with you" and then like magic all that effort and initiative disappears.

We all grew up hearing the phrase " My word is my bond", and if you ask anyone they will be quick to even give their word that they live up to that phrase..but in actuality we all fall victim to not following through sometimes.

Circumstances do arise that can take us down another path than we anticipate, and life will happen. Therefore preventing us from attending events, but I think it is more important that we do not let people down in our lives. We need to hold up to things we say we will do. All we have is each other sometimes to make us feel like we are part of something bigger, a family. Most of us are closer to our friends than our own blood and that is fine. Whoever your family is its important you respect the relationship.

I sometimes forget how much it means to my grandmother when my daughter and I come and see her on a Sunday afternoon. When I do not go every weekend, in my mind I think "not a big deal, I will go next week" but actually it's a huge deal because who knows if any of us will be here next week. I promised I would make an effort to come by more and I should. I let her down each time I do not, and that is inexcusable.

The elders and smaller members in our family really look at us (18-35 crew) as rock stars most of the time. I say that because we are at the age where we can come and go as we please, we always look and smell good, we have our jobs our lives, and they are limited to what they can do. Even though we (18-35 crew) tend to be ripping and running a lot we should make time for those who we know love and look forward to our company and may just want to see us for an hour one day.

This can be a friend we hardly see, a relative or even your own house member. Sometimes we live with people and we don't even take time to talk to them. Ask them how was your day? Anything you need that I can help you with? Did you know I love you and you mean alot to me. Thanks!

I think its important to take time to acknowledge those who are a part of who we are each day.

I take this time to acknowledge all of my blog readers! I love you all! All of you have been fantastic in supporting me, and sending me little notes thanking me for certain material that helped you get through a situation or entertained you for a second.

Everyone on this list in my opinion is a part of something bigger. We re in a time where things will change drastically and we all have to be responsible and held accountable for it. Do your part each day even if its small in helping someone elevate and encouraging them. Try not to gossip, if you can refrain TRY it. It does not add on and it just gives birth to bad energy. I will go deeper into this Monday.

Love yourself and mean it, it will trickle out to those around you and that is the type of energy we all need.

Have a magnificent weekend filled with endless opportunities.



Rho said...

I hear you, cuz. We all have to take the time to check up on and spend time with our loved ones before it's too late.

AdrianC said...

I think it is important for us as individuals to realize we are not just letting others down when we are not meeting their expectations, but rather we are letting a part of ourselves down. We don't have the conviction to follow through and rely on the strength of said relationships to allow these lapses. It is important to remember that what you do for others ultimately reflects what you would do for yourself.