Pregnancy...isn't it such a glorious time, even if you have yet to experience being pregnant in your lifetime, everyone who see's a pregnant woman, feels happy and warm and excited for that soon to be mom.
I am fortunate that a close friend of mine, is pregnant right now and she's looking magnificent everyday. She is the type of woman who is naturally fab so she loves to dress up and coordinate things with her belly. In addition she still wears the heels like she is not carrying a load in the front of her stomach. It is so funny because when I am with her, people sometimes stare at her like "Is she kidding me with that little skirt and those heels, where is your maternity garbs!"..She just smiles and keeps it moving.
The only thing about her pregnancy that is a little disheartening to me and has been extremely frustrating to her is the fact that when she gets on her commute in the mornings she hardly ever gets a seat! The train she rides is always crowded and and there are men who will see her coming and pull out their papers and read hiding their faces.
Their are older woman of course who should not be forced to get up out of their seat, but will offer her before a man does. All the boy's and men who sit and watch as her belly (which is pretty matured..she is 7 months) pertrude's as she has back pains, should be absolutely ashamed!! This is not just a problem with the pregnant woman but the elderly and woman in general.
In my opinion I think if a man is sitting down on a train and he looks between the ages of 10-75 he should not watch a woman stand at all. Especially if she is a woman who looks to be 40 or older. I know some people will disagree with this, BUT, this is what is was like back in our grandparents day. Men were true gentleman's if they was nothing else. They could have no money in their pockets or the bank, but they knew how to treat a lady. It was something they were taught and aspired to be because no woman would give them the time of day otherwise.
Now by no means do I think an elderly man of about 75 should get up for a young school girl. Even though I have seen this happen, because some of the old school men just cannot sit while another woman is standing. It was taught to them in their upbringing.
Unfortunately there are women who have allowed their standards to fall and they except these fooleywang boys who call themselves men. The men start to notice they don't have to work as hard and they start a whole new culture of being outright DISGUSTING!
My friend rode the E train Monday morning, to find all the men who were 30+ act like they were either sleeping, reading the paper or didn't see her. Another WOMAN who was listening to her iPod took her earphones off and asked her "Are you going far ma'am?" my friend replied "Yes", she then tapped the ignorant man, who looked about 28, sitting next to her listing to a boombox and dressed like he was going to a party, on his shoulder and said "You see this young sister pregnant, can you please give her your seat"? He then said, "Oh my bad, no problem". As if he did not see her. Not to mention he was sitting their with his woman, who condoned the tacky behavior!
HAS IT COME TO THIS? Must we ask these young men to get up when they see a woman clearly in her last trimester needing to sit? All my men who read this..please pass the message of being a gentleman on to your friends, your nephews and your sons. This is truly an epidemic.
Men we are women, delicate, yet strong, we work hard but are queens and should always be treated as such. Please show these young mislead boys what manhood is all about, how it starts with being a gentleman. I think that is the most attractive asset of any man. I remember when I would walk down the street with my dad when I was young and he would always put me on the inside of the street. I noticed that as I got older some of the guys I met and knew would do the same thing and it was the best thing ever!
To know that if a car jumped the curb you would take the hit, and you are not even my dad! Now that is Swagger. Ladies lets demand men be gentleman at all times and make it a mandated requirement for men apply to your school if they are interested. If we don't we will let all our pregnant ladies with their sore ankles on their long rides home go in vain.
LOVE YOU ALL!!!!